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Covid/nursery/return to work issues. Any advice massively appreciated.

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LellyGreen · 03/08/2020 09:56

This is quite a specific situation and I tried changing details so no one involved would recognise but I want absolute clarity so I'm just writing as is and will just state this post is with no malice just coming from me genuinely not understanding my options and being concerned.

I've been on maternity leave for a year, I returned last week. Im currently unable to work from home and I share an office with 1 other person, we are in a job share. My working days were supposed to be Thursday and Friday, however whilst I have been off my colleague has been working Wednesday. Thursday and Friday so ideally they wanted me to return on Mondays and Tuesdays.

My child has a place reserved in a nursery that currently can't accept due to operating a staggered return of existing pupils before accepting new ones. They have advised they should be able to take him in January. Until then we aren't using childcare, and I managed to get my partner to swap his days off to Tuesday and Wednesday and I just work on his days off. I couldn't switch to Mon/Tues because he can't have Monday's off. But I tried to do my bit to accommodate the needs of the department.

Due to the size of our office we can't work at the same time, so the Wednesday is the problem. They asked if we could do a rota where our days change to accommodate us both but my partner can't change his days off again leaving me only able to work on tues/Weds. I felt guilty a few weeks ago and said I'll look into alternate childcare if it's my only option and they have now asked me to do this. My partner isn't happy and has pointed out I've already changed what I can to fit around them, and that the nursery we had chosen we had chosen for so many reasons, there isn't another like it nearby and we'd have to look at childminders which isn't something we feel would be a good fit for us.

I just feel stuck. They've said working from home will only be an option if we've looked into absolutely everything else first as there's extra costs associated with it. I understand this but this is a temporary situation, until January, during a global pandemic. A time where lots of us need extra flexibility. My child will be in this nursery for nearly 4 years. I don't want to put them somewhere and then change it in January, I don't have family nearby to look after him, I just need flexibility until January or to be allowed to work the shifts I was originally supposed to work. I've been thinking about offering to only work 1 day a week rather than 2 and lose half my pay because I just don't know what to do but I feel like I always offer to put myself out in situations rather than upsetting people but I have a family to provide for. If I offer to front the extra costs for working from home could this be a possibility? It's 1 day a week until January. It's literally 21 shifts.
What can I do?

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Moondust001 · 03/08/2020 12:43

I'm sorry, but your good reasons for not fitting in with your employers requirements are equally valid for them- there's a pandemic and every employer in the world is trying to deal with that, and paying for something for a short time to make it possible for you to "go to work" is still a cost they can't afford. Your child and their care needs are not anything that is the employers responsibility and so I don't think there's anything at all wrong with them saying that they want you to exhaust all other possible options before spending money to let you have what you want. To be honest, they sound reasonable. They could have simply said no and left it at that. They don't have to fit anything around your childcare needs, pandemic or not. They've said they want you to do everything you can and then they'll consider helping out if it's impossible. Many employers are happily telling people where the door is if they can't fit in with the employers needs. Just do what they've asked then talk you them again if it doesn't work out something.

unfortunateevents · 03/08/2020 13:12

What are the extra costs for the company associated with you working from home? Is this genuine or just some kind of excuse from them because they want you present in the office? I can understand you not wanting to put some temporary childcare in place for one day a week for less than 6 months, particularly if you have already accommodated a change in your return to work days. What is your job share partner's situation? Are they more easily able to change one of their days until next January?

MarcelineMissouri · 03/08/2020 13:16

Just to confirm, did they already agree that you could go back on Thursday/Friday and have since changed their minds?

I also assume it is not possible for your job share to work Mondays until January?

Stanleyville · 03/08/2020 13:16

Would working the Thursday and Friday as you were originally planned to fix it? If so, I would insist on that.

Lotsalotsagiggles · 03/08/2020 20:18

If I were you I would find an ad hoc childminder for the days you need until January. Many child fiends right now would welcome the extra income and you can request a contract to finish in Dec

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