I don't know what to do! Please help x

[Clarabella1431]

I have been in my current role for 4 years. I work for a charity which I love.

I am comfortable there as I know everyone.

In the last year I have had 3 different sets of managers. They have all left saying that the organisation isn't for them.

My new manager is vile. She is rude and isn't interested in anything I say about our current processes or the reasons we do things the way we do. She said that she is the boss now so will do things her way.

In frustration I reached out to my old bosses. One of which has got me an interview for the same role I do now. It will be more money for me as it is more hours. It is about 20mins further away than my current role. She has told me that I am the best candidate on paper.

My new boss has been nicer to me this week making me think should I stay where I am or go for the new job?

I don't want any regrets x

At least go for the interview.

I would take it, having a nice boss is a massive deal at work. It can really make or break a job.
Plus more money is always nice.

Are the extended hours going to have a big effect on your life? That would be the only consideration for me.

Go for the interview, don't tell anyone (or make an excuse to justify the morning off) , you might not get the job, and at the interview you can find out more about it and see if the place seems somewhere you'd like to work.

I currently work 3 days a week in the office.

The new role will be 5 days a week. Only 2 in the office, 3 from home x

The new role will also be for a charity so I would be happy about that x

It's always useful to go for interviews, and it gives you the opportunity to get a feel for the place.
But do you want to work 5 days?

Definitely worth exploring. Go for it!
I'd be concerned if your boss is dogmatic one week and nice the next. This gets very wearing and hard to deal with very quickly.

I feel that if I stay where I am I will never know how the new boss will be from day to day. I would really have to work hard to build a relationship with her.

My husband always says that I need to realise that work is just work and that I care too much about the company I work for x

Sometimes no matter how nice the employer is, the best way to be properly appreciated is to move on. Go for the interview, have a separate chat with your ex-manager about why they prefer the new place (if they didn't enjoy the place you still work, what's different here?) and see what you think.

But generally I feel life's too short to work for a bad manager, so if you have a choice, I'd seriously look at moving on.

Go for the interview!!

Hi OP

It's always good to get practice interviews because you are more relaxed than if you were desperate for the job. (Or was that just me?) I once did that, got the job, and ended up working for the same manager for 12 years, moving with him to three different companies.

Also getting a different perspective is unlikely to do you any harm. If you get offered/take this new, better paying job you can always see if you can drop to four days after a year or so, or four days of longer hours (ie using what would have been your commute time during your WFH days to make up a full working week. You'd need to be disciplined though, and not continue working hours past your contract hours just because you are at home.

Good luck! 🌹

I would go for it!

Also, think of it this way - you won’t have one perfect option with no regrets at all. You’ll have some regrets whatever you do, as you’re picking between two things and you can’t have both!

It’s a hard call. Do you feel ok talking to your new boss about what has changed to make things better this week? Might give you a feel for whether the time before was a blip and she was struggling and behaving poorly and this is standard or if that’s her and she’s got a bollocking/started on the gin at lunch this week and is a bit better for a small window?
I would definitely go for the interview. You’ll have a better idea of your options, it’s always good practice and if that role doesn’t work out something else will.
Good luck. Horrible bosses are dire. My previous boss was an utter cock womble. I realised how bad after I moved on and am still amazed that I worked so hard for so long for him!

I got the job. Handed my notice in this week. Hope and pray I am doing the right thing x x

Congratulations! I am sure it will work out well.

Congrats!

I think you are doing the right thing yes!

Oh well done! I am so pleased for you....yes, of course you are doing the right thing. Good for you....

Congratulations!

Take the new role, especially if you are going to be working with ppl you know and work well with. The way a new boss comes in is very telling and she doesn’t sound great. It is so awful being stuck working with someone who doesn’t value you. Also, new roles might be hard to come by as this weird time goes on. Take it!

Well done OP! Best wishes in your future job. 🌻