How do you help someone who thinks they're fat

[katie2812]

Hi all,

I'm really stuck. My sister is extremely insecure about her weight. She is a healthy size 12-14 but use to be a size 8-10 and has gained 3 stone over the last 6 months. She is so insecure and always compares herself to me. But my family have pointed out the fact she has gained weight in front of everyone - my gran said she was fat and so did my brother in the last month. She was working hard and did the keto diet and my gran saying that to her has put her back to comfort eating. She will eat a whole pack of chocolates and drink so much fizzy pop but it is genuine comfort eating. How do I help her? I've told her she looks fine and always compliment her etc. But she says "not next to you...that's not what the family think"

buy her a copy of "fat is a feminist issue"

do you tell people to shut up with their nasty judginess when they make these comments? or do you stay silent to avoid an argument? when bullying like this is happening, staying silent is the same as aiding with the bullies.

separately obviously your dsis needs to tackle her eating but no one can guilt or shame her into doing that. she needs to find the strength from within to find a non-food-based way to regulate her emotions, but that isn't going to happen from the current status quo.

I'm her biggest supporter. I always stick up for her and ensure I tell whoever's upset her they've upset her. But I feel guilty because she says shes the fat sister and I always try to tell her she looks great. I agree she needs to find strength to diet but she suffers a lot with her mental health and so we have to be mindful of pushing different things.