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Dealing with being off work guilt

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Iambatman25 · 25/05/2020 06:35

I currently work for the NHS and my job is physically demanding (I work with elderly so lot of heavy lifting).
I am now 21 weeks pregnant, and I’ve had a pretty rough time actually. Between sciatica, early bleeding, morning sickness, I’m now off with pelvic girdle pain, I’m waiting on a referral from a physiotherapist as I may need crutches to mobilise with the pain.
I recently had my 20 week scan and baby looks healthy, however my placenta is low and basically covering the exit so manual handling is off the table.

The thing is, I just cannot get over this guilt of being off sick. I feel like I’m being judged. When I first found out I was pregnant, the first thing my manager said to me was “try not to be off sick as much as when she got pregnant”. And tbh I think I might have been off more than her at this point. They’ve tried changing my shifts so I work shorter days, and there really isn’t anything I can do that doesn’t involve manual labour, I’ve spoke with occupational health yesterday and she was hinting that I won’t be back before I’m due to go off on maternity leave (current policy with COVID is I leave at 28 weeks).

Has anyone else felt this guilty and stressed with being off work even though I have perfectly reasonable medical conditions for being so?

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Rockchick1984 · 25/05/2020 08:21

If you really want to be working, can't your manager find you a desk based or administrative role for now? You have no reason to feel guilty though, if you were unable to work due to non-pregnancy related sickness then you wouldn't feel so bad!

Iambatman25 · 25/05/2020 10:11

I have requested to be redeployed to admin duties but apparently not possible because we already have ward clerks that do those duties.
We had a pregnant nurse on the ward and she was put in charge on her shifts so she wasn't doing any heavy lifting, just handling discharges and going to meetings. Unfortunately as a healthcare support worker I am not qualified to take those roles.

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Rockchick1984 · 25/05/2020 17:28

Then definitely don't feel bad, you have offered a solution and they have chosen not to take you up on it Smile

BirdieFriendReturns · 25/05/2020 18:25

A job is just a job. Your baby comes first.

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