No moral support for returning to work

[Woodside44]

Hi, I’m new to mumsnet..I think it’s a great idea to be able to come on here for advice or just a chat :)

I’m currently pregnant with baby number 2 and due in December..I’m a self employed hairdresser and make up artist.

When I had told family I was pregnant with my second child the first thing they have all said is about how I won’t be working again as I won’t cope due to having two kids. It has made me feel completely deflated and quite hurt. My mother in law was especially forceful with her opinions saying I don’t need to work and to just stop. I personally like working part time as it keeps me sane.

With my last pregnancy I went back very part time after three months..I don’t really have much choice to take a year or so off due to having to try save my clientele as much as I can.

I’m really just looking to see how everyone else worked or phased themselves back in to work again with little support..or did anyone have a complete change in careers to something that worked better for child care?

Thank you :)

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Congratulations on your pregnancy. Given your job you are probably in a better position than some as the amount you work you do can be led by you. I don't know what your partner does but make It clear you expect him to watch the children when he isn't at work as you will be doing the same when hes at work.
Dependant on when in Dec you are due you might get some busy weeks leading up to xmas for parties and such ( if pubs ever open again) . Given your profession I'd say you have timed your pregnancy well in normal circumstances, work up to xmas take mat leave when its quiet after xmas and start again as everyone is getting summer ready. You can work evenings / sundays (more hairdressers should do this imo) whenever you want really.
Ignore what the family think you will and wont be able to do, do what you feel you can not what they tell you should x