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i HATE my new job

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Moomin · 17/09/2007 19:04

I started at a new school this month. I'd been at my old one, 20 miles away, for 10 years and loved it there but I had a huge fall-out with the new Head who was/is a sexist pig and I went to the union about him, blah blah blah, anyway I felt I couldn't work under him anymore even though I loved the school and my colleagues were fabulous. By a fluke I got this new job at the last minute and because my old Head knew he was in the wrong in the way he treated me and he didn't want any more hassle he let me go without serving my notice.

My new school is literally 3 mins walk from my house; my hours have increased (although I've lost my management responsibilities) and of course it's really convenient for the dds and their childminder and dd1's school.

But I've been in tears most nights after school . I miss my old colleagues sooo much; the staff at the new school are very staid and traditional in comparison; my classes are AWFUL - all bottom sets, with huge behaviour problems, plus they hate me cos I'm new. At lunchtimes we sit round a table in the dept office eating our sandwiches and I listen to them MOANING on about the kids, the other staff, the management, etc and I could cry with boredom. It's like being at a wake (in fact I'm going to a funeral tomorrow and it will be a damn sight more sociable and jolly - I'm not joking).

The Head is a lovely bloke, a friend of mine, and has promised that after this year I will get better classes and more opportunities and a big part of me believes it will get better.... but I'm soooooo miserable right now, it feels like I've made a huge mistake - but I couldn't have worked at my old place anymore so I really had no choice - but work isn't like it used to be for me; I so enjoyed it before and now, like a said, I've been in floods most nights. i HATE it

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Bluestocking · 17/09/2007 19:07

I'm so sorry, Moomin. But it sounds as though you really didn't have any choice, and at least you are out of the clutches of the sexist pig. Is there anyone at all in the staffroom who looks as though they might have a spark of kindred spirit underneath the chalk dust?

Moomin · 17/09/2007 20:07

There's one (ONE, mind) girl in my dept who seems very down to earth and is always very friendly, about the same age as me, but that's it. They don't mix with other depts as there's no big shared staffroom so I don't get the chance to speak to other people much. And just walking round the buildings I've noticed that no-one is very forthcoming. It's almost like you have to 'earn your stripes; before anyone will give you the time of day. One woman I'm working with has actually been openly hostile to me and clearly doesn't want me there.

I'm just finding it hard.

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Bluestocking · 17/09/2007 20:37

OK then, you have one potential friend and ally in the department office. If she isn't miserable, it's likely that the place isn't as bad as it currently seems. How about asking her how she found it when she first started - without bursting into tears, if you can!

chocbiscuits · 17/09/2007 21:21

Moomin how long have you been there? First month is usually pretty rubbish being anywhere new..

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Lauriefairycake · 19/09/2007 10:06

I echo staying there for a few months - this much change is going to be a huge upheavel for you.

Going anywhere new at the last minute is hard and with the work culture so different, doubly hard.

I am going to need to take some of my own advice about staying - I started a new course on monday and I also hate it - this is because people keep calling me "girl" and "darling" - REALLY not appropriate for a 35 year old professional woman

HonoriaGlossop · 19/09/2007 11:07

Moomin I so feel for you. I do agree with sitting tight though because NOTHING is quite so bad again, as being new. It is horrible and after ten years at your other place you will have forgotten how horrible it is to be new ANYWHERE; though your place does sound a bit yuk

I was the same in my current post, have been here just over a year and it's fine now. It'll not be my dream job but the conveniences outweigh the negatives now. Maybe it'll be like that for you in time; it does sound great being so local.

Maybe give yourself little targets, as in "I'll get to the end of this term and then assess how I feel". Don't let yourself agonise in the meantime about whether it's the right place, just keep reminding yourself that you'll think about it over the Christmas break because then you'll be in a better position to judge.

Sympathy from me though. I spent alot of last year really having to DRAG my unwilling self to work

HonoriaGlossop · 19/09/2007 18:14

How was today, moomin?

Moomin · 19/09/2007 18:16

Thank you for positive comments. I wouldn't/couldn't consider leaving this place at the moment - that would be a complete DISASTER. I do appreciate the lengths my friend went to, to get me working there and there's no way I'd throw that back in his face. I really do just have to bide my time and hope things get better like he's promised they will. I'm wondering if a few people know I'm friends with him and think I'm some kind of 'spy' who'll go running to him with tales, or perhaps they're suspicious of me because of the way I 'appeared' there with little to no notice and they maybe think it's 'jobs for the boys' or something. I dunno...

I'm also very sensitive with having lost a friend of mine last week and it really doesn't take much to upset me at the moment. I KNOW it will get better... but I'm really hating it right now and right now is where I'm at, so I can't help feeling like this, IYSWIM. I know I'm being a bit rubbish (a lot rubbish!)

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Moomin · 19/09/2007 18:21

Sorry Honor, Xposts!

Twas my day off today and I had yesterday afternoon away from school to go to my friend's funeral, so it seems like ages since I was there.

Dh was off today as well so we went out for the day and had lunch which was lovely but then we came home just now and it's made me miserable again thinking about working tomorrow and although yesterday was very positive in lots of ways it still feels like shit that my friend's gone. I don't seem to be able to separate the two things at the moment (work and my friend dying). Looking at things from my new colleagues' pov, they must think I'm a right miserable old cow!

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HonoriaGlossop · 19/09/2007 18:33

Oh well at least it was a good day moomin! I'm so sorry to hear about your friend btw.

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