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Part time flexible role or full time promotion ideal job

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Jojogabor · 20/02/2020 21:12

I have a dilemma. Have been in a relatively well paid position with a lot of flexibility at my organisation for 16 years. I work 3-4 days a week depending on term time and holidays and have school aged children. However, I have been very frustrated with my department in last few years, feel very unchallenged and there is no room for progression, growth or promotion. All my peers have left for various reasons and I feel that I am stagnating. However, I have stayed as life outside work is busy with the children and the flexibility has worked for me whilst my husband has a busy career.

An opportunity has come up which looks ideal on paper. Massive step up - a global role - and a hefty pay rise. It’s at a different company so would be a huge adjustment. But it is full time (albeit with some flex for working from home). The only thing holding me back is the change in hours whilst my kids are still in primary school (and youngest won’t leave for another 6 years). We would also have to get more childcare and I would have less downtime and time with kids. I don’t know what to do as if I don’t pursue this, then I feel I might as well stay in my current role forever which is a depressing thought. I could wait 6 years but will be 6 years older and not sure that is a good thing. I do feel happier when busy but perhaps the grass is always greener? We don’t need the pay rise as my husband is the main earner but it certainly would come in handy and is not an insignificant rise. It’s more that I think I would enjoy the role and my self esteem is in need of a boost. However, I worry that I would jeopardise smooth running of family life just to pursue my own goals - and life will certainly be a little more stressful?

I may not get the position so this could all just be hypothetical!! But WWYD?

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Bonkersblond · 20/02/2020 21:28

Following as I’d like to know the answer to as am in same predicament! Working 30 hours flexibly, leaving at 2pm most days. Work want me to go full time, I would go up a band so quite a hefty pay rise, DC are both at secondary. I’m thinking of giving it a go and using unpaid parental leave to boost my holidays. Parental leave has to be taken as full weeks but this would free up annual leave which can be taken as half days as and when needed so could be around more in the school holidays. DC are of an age I could leave them for the morning but wouldn’t be happy to leave youngest all day. Would utilising parental leave be an option for you to enable you to do it?

Oblomov20 · 20/02/2020 21:30

Definitely apply. Go for an interview? See if you get offered it.

What does your Dh say? If he thinks you can work around it, then go for it!

Jojogabor · 20/02/2020 21:45

Thanks Bonkers. Sounds great for you - I would go for it and definitely take parental leave in holidays. I would only be able to do that after a good stint in the new job so not an option in short term for me but may be in the future.

Thanks Ob. I might see how far I proceed (if at all) and see what I learn from the experience. My dh is supportive of my choice but he has said he wouldn’t really be able to do much more than currently with the kids due to his job so we would need to fill any gaps with extra childcare. Overall about a £15k net pay rise but I would really be doing it for self esteem, more interesting work, leaving current role.

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chickedeee · 20/02/2020 21:59

Such a tricky decision 😊
Perhaps apply and buy yourself some time?

Sometimes making a list of pro's and con's helps.

chickedeee · 20/02/2020 22:00

Just to add men never seem to have the same moral dilemma about family life and work Sad

Brown76 · 20/02/2020 23:21

Your husband could ask to work more flexibly in his current role. That might help you adjust as a family even if not a permanent change eg first 6-12 months as you get to grips with new role.

Jojogabor · 21/02/2020 17:53

Unfortunately I don’t think he has much give in terms of flex in his role. But yes perhaps it might be possible if temporary / one off now and then

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