We've both had reviews a week ago.
In mine, manager said she noticed this co worker sometimes snaps and me and others. I said yes but I didn't want to come to her (manager) about it and my perspective was it probably wasn't personal but all I could think was, cultural misunderstanding (her english isn't amazing and she doesn't pick up on social nuances well) Manager is also from another country and agreed with me about this woman. I even stuck up for this co worker and said how helpful and knowledgeable she is. I said how I just want to get on with everyone. I never told my boss about it before because it wasn't like I thought it was bullying or harassment.,.. co worker came across as abrupt, snappy and sometimes a bit rude (customers have said it too) but as I said, I didn't think was personal, perhaps could be stress too. I'm also a lot newer than this woman
Anyway, manager told me she'd mentioned to her in the review about her snapping at people.
Obviously I can't tell co worker any of this. And she's been awful to me since. She must think I went straight to our boss with tales, when in fact I'd have said nothing if boss hadn't brought it up, and as I said, I stuck up for her.
Now in a really horrible situation as can't tell her what boss said or how it really was.
Don't really want to go to boss either as it feels like real playground stuff to me. But this woman had me in tears tonight saying I'd been rude to her tonight. I wasn't as never am to anyone, also I have anxiety and depression so I'm not great at standing up for myself. It feels like gaslighting as she is rude. I'm always treading on eggshells around her.