Hating my new job

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I’m hoping for some advice from people who have maybe started a new job and hated it from the off!

I’ve just started a new role a week ago and I am really struggling, I was made redundant during my maternity leave so I’ve had to pretty quickly find something else, unfortunately I am really hating it.

I know this is a common feeling as I’ve experienced the awkward first week many times and it gets better but this feels so different. I’ve been in tears every night this week dreading going back and I don’t think that’s normal - can anyone relate? There are other opportunities available so do I cut my losses?

What specifically do you hate? The people? The work content? The pressure?

The work itself is definitely part of it, although I haven’t been given much to do yet it’s just nowhere near challenging enough so the day drags. To be honest I don’t know anyone yet, only the person who sits right next to me has said anything, even at that it’s just morning and bye.

Are you able to drill down into why you hate it? Commute/people/leadership/lack of training/ etc?

I should add - I hated my new job when I took it, but it was because it was totally new after 10 years elsewhere doing my job with my eyes shut. It was awful not knowing anything. It's a distant memory now and I'm exceedingly happy there.

I think for me it’s the work, the people and the commute combined that are all killing me. Nearly two hours to get home, then I’m so tired I just go to bed and get up to do it all over again. I don’t feel like I’m going to have any work/life balance for a job i don’t even really like.

Find a new job OP if you can, life is too short to be miserable at work. I left a job once after 6 months, I knew after a few days I'd made a huge mistake but tried to stick it out. I was so unhappy and once I'd resigned it felt like a weight had been lifted. If you think you could find something else pretty quickly then do so. Good luck.

If there are other opportunities available then I'd quit and find something else - once left a job after 3 months of sheer misery. Looking back, I should have left after the first week but I thought it was just me. It wasn't. It was just a bloody awful job working for the bosses from hell.

I left a job after 3 months. I remember getting ill and hoping it was something bad so I had an excuse to quit (not seriously, but for a fleeting moment).
When you know you know

I've managed four days in a new job and I like the work, I like most of the staff, but the bloke who owns the company is an arsehole of the highest order, so I am quitting tomorrow. It's a part-time temporary job and I feel bad for letting them down but they've been interviewing others so hopefully they'll be able to replace me quickly.

I could have cheerfully punched him this morning when he loudly criticised my work in front of colleagues. I've not been that angry for a long, long time.

Life's too short, OP! Can you move into something else quickly?

For people who left a job did you have another job to walk into? How did you explain on your CV?

Notsogoodwithhousekeeping, I'm in a similar position, humilitiated on day 2 for doing what the boss said! In my experience arseholes don't change, and if he's like that when you're new, it isn't a good sign.

Didn't have new job but did temping til I found one

I put the job on my CV and explain at interview that I was mis sold the role, usually find that's ok.

I did have one job I got rejected for as they saw it as an issue, which was a blow, but I probably didn't explain it right in hindsight and that was just one person out of many who haven't found it an issue.

Rule seems to be

Lots of job hopping = issue

One off = ok.

Mums1234 urgh, sorry to hear you’ve suffered it too!

There is the owner and the senior manager - the manager sets the work but then the owner comes along and tells you to do something else, or usually several things. He also managed to fit in several bollockings as he gave me the instructions, for things I hadn’t had time to do because I was trying to do the other million things that needed doing.

I cannot bear being micromanaged - we all need training in a new job, of course, and it takes a while to learn the ropes, but if I’ve been hired because of my ten years’ experience in the industry, I do not expect to be pulled aside and told how to do basic things like I’m fresh out of school.

Started a new role 2 weeks ago and am feeling very wobbly. My boss gave me something to do without explaining it - I got it completely wrong 3 times and he now clearly thinks I’m a complete idiot. I was asked to look at my work and point out to him where I thought I’d gone wrong. I felt about 5 years old.

I’ve just started a new role and boy is it intense . They expect me to be trained in 2 weeks and that is so unrealistic.

I left a job after half a day - no need to mention that on a CV!

I’ve done numerous temping jobs, on my CV I’ve grouped them together, I left one after 4 weeks and I’ve never mentioned it again!