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Dealing with a narcissistic colleague

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upsydaisys · 23/01/2020 15:46

I have a job that I love and work remotely but I'm becoming increasingly bogged down by a colleague who has all the hallmarks of a narcissist.

They are not my boss, but we work directly with each other and I can't avoid them. I get messages from them morning, noon and night, weekends etc and no matter how much I flog my guts out and try to communicate with them effectively it just ends up with them screaming at me and telling me I'm shit.

I've raised with my employer but they seem to skirt around the issue and things that they have implemented to tackle the communication issue just get ignored. The colleague has been quite successful and I'm struggling a bit with my own area, but I put this down to the absolute hounding and unrealistic expectations that have been set by my colleague.

I'm in no position to quit and despite getting things in place/making sure I carry everything out so that it can be documented, it doesn't look like it'll end up being rectified soon.

Can anybody give me any tips or advice on how to deal with them so they leave me alone and not lose my job at the same time.

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HotGlueGun · 23/01/2020 15:51

This is bullying! How big is your organisation?

Itsmybirthday19 · 23/01/2020 15:53

Do they actually scream and tell you that you are 'shit'?

If so, make a log of those occasions and go to HR.

Sassanacs · 23/01/2020 16:02

Whether they are narcissistic or not, the behaviour is unacceptable. Log the incidents and go to HR

upsydaisys · 23/01/2020 16:20

No HR unfortunately and it's my word against their's. I think they're being backed into a corner at the moment so they're being very volatile as a result. Before Christmas I almost had a nervous breakdown due to the knock on effect.

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