Stay at home mum with school kids

[Cakeymum85]

Hey..so I’m in a bit of dilemma. Once my kids started school I began looking for a job that could fit in with school hours. I was keen to have part time as we have a lot of animals at home to look after and I wanted to have time to get things done whilst they are at school. However I was lucky to be offered a job at their school, on the basis that’s it’s full time. I was so glad to be offered the job that I took it but I’ve struggled so much with working every day and not getting any time to myself and not coping well with the stress. I have asked about dropping my hours for the last 9 months but they are not considering it.
My husband is very supportive and has said we will manage financially if I do quit but I can’t help feel I’ve failed. And would it be crazy to leave a job that fits in so well with my children’s school??
Before working at the school I did a lot of cake decorating so thinking that could possibly be something to go back to.
I just feel so guilty to leave this job with out another one to go to..
Please help! X

OP - there are lots of comments about other people really wanting a job with your hours, ignore them and do what suits you.

Being constantly stressed is not good for your mental health.

Re. cake decorating, I have several friends who have a business making fancy cakes for local coffee shops. They also make birthday cakes for local bakers and private individuals orders which come via their website. Is this something you could consider?

I'm in the leave camp! I was in your situation and went back full time and find it very stressful. The difference is I love my job and so the stress and hours are worth it. If you can get by without the money, I don't think the money is enough. Also, it is totally illogical paying for someone to clean and look after your kids when you want to do those things yourself. I doubt much pay would be left after that on a ta wage either. Are you sure the alpaca business plan is totally out? Could you not start small?

Personally I wouldn’t quit unless your dh has a brexit proof job. We are about to hit econonic uncertainty.

Do make sure your husband is pulling his weight and doing a fair % of ALL domestic and child- related stuff -cooking, cleaning, shopping, admin, pets, washing............ all of it.

You both work now so you need to share the load proportional to your work hours.

Can recommend getting a cleaner too, saves me hours every week!

I disagree with most: It is true, that a school hours job is like gold dust. But it's full time, every day. No days off. You get no time to yourself. You take your kids to school, work, bring them home. If they too have SN and you have no support network, Dh away a lot, no wonder you're shattered!

And a TA job, looking after very SN children, is truely awful stressful job.
I'm not surprised you're struggling.

Could you hang it out and see if any other jobs come up on less hours? As you’ll have some experience you’ll be desirable to other schools. Term time only jobs are rare. Once people are in they don’t tend to move because it’s likely they have kids. My job is very busy and should really be more hours but I do like that I have two days off.