What should I do?

[Tracyuk89]

I'm hoping you guys can help me make a decision. I've retracted a grievance that was in the early stages due to deciding to remain in my current position ONLY until I find another job (I've got lots of interviews lined up). The grievance was in the early stages for two months now and I don't even know if it would've been upheld. The colleague was interviewed shortly after i put in the grievance yet my only witness was not interviewed 2 months into the grievance submission date and they changed their mind only last week. I don't have much evidence except a few texts from colleagues confirming what they've witnessed (they've begged me to not get them involved). The bully has been smart in using different tactics.

HR are pressuring me to be redeployed permanently even though my manager is happy for me to remain in my current position. One HR advisor wrote me a very angry email demanding I fill in the redeployment form they sent me.

HR have arranged a meeting (giving me only two days notice).

I'm not sure if i should go alone to this meeting nor what to say at this meeting as I've already explained my reasons several times in an email.

I don't have a union but an equality charity have said they'd help (I've found them helpful in the past) but I don't want to bother them with this.

Acas haven't offered any advice other than early concilliation (I know my employer can decline) I don't really want to bother with that either. Acas have also said that my employer can continue with the grievance and they're obligated to protect me from retaliation (does this mean they can force me into redeployment?).

I wish I had stuck up for myself instead of bothering with these silly managers. Other colleagues have encouraged me to stay and I have told me that they don't think the bully will bother me again.

Is it legal to record the meeting without consent of those being recorded? Should I go alone? Can they force me to be redeployed elsewhere? Could I just send another email explaining my reasons for 1) dropping the grievance and 2) my decision to decline redeployment and decline to attend this meeting? Should I say that I'm open to mediation? The bully declined mediation the first time I reported the bullying.

TIA.

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Use the charity.
Email HR and ask for the agenda for the meeting.

You mention an equality charity so I presume the grievance is something to do with a 'protected characteristic' eg bullied because of race, gender, disability? If so, use them. They can accompany you but not speak for you Or just ask them for advice if you're more comfortable with that. You could have a colleague accompany you - your company policy may not allow for 'outsiders' to be present but you can ask. Particularly in the case of disability, it could be seen as unreasonable for them to refuse.
Remember - you don't have to agree to anything in that meeting - it's fine to go and listen and respond where you feel you can, but if you can't, say you'd like to take some time to consider how to respond to that/your evidence etc. They won't like it much but here's nothing they can do.
They can't force a redeployment on you in order to protect you from retaliation, but they are offering you options. If you're not ok with redeployment and want to stay where you are, you might have to accept that things will be a bit strained between you for a while, but you should absolutely not see any repeats of bullying or retaliatory behaviour and if you do, you must report them to HR.