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Does anyone work in the same place as their DH/DP?

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ChippyMinton · 17/08/2007 19:00

Have seen a job advertised in DH's workplace (different department). Not sure if it's a good idea to apply or not. Any experiences welcomed

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ChippyMinton · 17/08/2007 20:25

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tissy · 17/08/2007 20:29

yes, I work in the same place as dh, but different dept.

So far, no major problems, but have to steer clear of his boss, who resents me in a big way. She really got her knickers in a twist when last Christmas, I innocently enquired what hours he would be working over the holiday, so i could work out childcare. Apparently, I shouldn't work if I have kids.- he's allowed to, of course, as long as the kids don't interfere with his job.

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ChippyMinton · 17/08/2007 20:37

does she not have kids or is she apha mummy?

Not sure what is bothering me about it TBH. He's quite a private person and i think it would be weird for him to have me around, gossiping!

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Eowyn · 17/08/2007 20:44

I aquired dh at work & we worked together for about 10 yrs, sometimes in same dept. It was fine cos we were used to it, i miss not knowing the people he speaks about & it was useful being together at xmas parties.
I guess it depends on the two of you.

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ChippyMinton · 17/08/2007 20:47

We used to work together, which was fine, and he got another job so he could ask me out - he disapproves of office romances LOL

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artichokes · 17/08/2007 20:48

DH and I work in same org but totally differnt depts. We have never, ever had professional contact but met through mutual work friends.

I love it. We can share all our work problems and understand what the other is talking about. We can gossip about colleagues without boring each other. For us it works brilliantly but it might not if we actually worked with one another. I imagine that would lead to tensions.

oregonianabroad · 17/08/2007 20:51

My dh and I met at work, got married and I went on mat leave. During leave, I changed job rather than go back: best decision I ever made, we have been much happier as a result. I was miserable there, and we brought each other down. I would only say go for it if you think you will enjoy the work and won't wind each other up.

cousinsandra · 17/08/2007 20:53

depends what position dh has - if s/he's the one booking time off then all laughing, but if both under one evil boss then unfortunately at their mercy. I used to be a business partner with dh - f'ing nightmare would never go back!

nightowl · 17/08/2007 20:54

i met ex dp at work but he was out of the building most of the time. worked fine for us, and we always had something to gosspip about when we got home. plus points..i always knew he wasn't lying about what time he finished work, he couldn't have gone to the pub without me finding out .

bookwormtailmum · 17/08/2007 21:16

I worked in the same office as my xp for a summer - in fact, he got me the interview afer I jokingly asked him if there was any work going begging at his place . It was hard going at times as he found it hard to separate 'girlfriend' and 'co-worker' (my work was supervised by someone else to remove this difficulty) but I was praised by his bosses for doing so well in the job and leaving my private life behind at the office door as we did in fact have to work together on one or two occasions.

Couldn't go back the next year as we'd split up by then and I'd had our dd by then . Otherwise, I'd have leapt at it like a shot. There were loads of couples and flatmates working there which was odd as the firm only employed about 15 people!!

myjobismum · 17/08/2007 21:19

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BrownSuga · 17/08/2007 21:20

i met dh on a construction job abroad, in diff depts. it was fantastic, had same friends to go out with, he moved in with my flatmate when i left for my next project. we had a really good time. now moved here i'm on mat leave, miss my old company & friends, will never be the same.

Clary · 17/08/2007 21:24

Yes I do and have on three occasions.

It's OK as tho we are in the same room it's a big room and we have no direct liaison (re work!) at all. We do occasionally have lunch together tho

Don't find issues about hols/picking up kids etc a problem really. In fact if for some reason (eg sick child) we need to do a box and cox it's easier when we are in the same place.

nightowl · 17/08/2007 21:28

actually, thinking back, the only thing that ever peed me off about us working together is that when i was on mat leave, he knew everything that was going on, kept coming home and telling me and i was jealous i was missing out!

McEdam · 17/08/2007 21:32

I've worked with dh a couple of times - he keeps following me around and joining firms I work for. Each time I've left within a few months of him joining, as it happens, and we've never been in the same department. It's been fine when we have been working in the same company, felt slightly odd but nothing more than that.

Niecie · 17/08/2007 21:58

My DH and I met at work - he was my line manager. It was OK most of the time but professional disagreements did tend to escalate more than they would have, but not in a horrible way - I would end up being a bit cheeky and answer back a bit more than I would have.

People didn't treat us any different after we got together but we were careful to keep a our distance when it mattered. The only downside was that we were made redundant on the same day and I often wonder if that would have happened if we weren't a couple as I feel they didn't want one of us working for them and resentful on behalf of the other.

It was good to understand such a big part of his life though and it can't have been all bad as we considered it again a few years later when we were married but he didn't get the job.

SouthEastLondonMummy · 17/08/2007 22:16

I met my DH at work, when I was in a more senior position, and then we got married and now have 2 DDs. And we both still work at the same place! It works fine, tho I suspect my DH is quite happy to have the place to himself while I'm on maternity leave (and be himself, rather than SELM's DH).

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ChippyMinton · 18/08/2007 08:34

That may be my concern SELM - being someone's DW rather than just myself, might be odd.

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Nymphadora · 18/08/2007 19:28

I worked with my xh but in different departments. My new bf is my boss (indirect) but we haven't really been at work since we started so don't really know how that is going to be.

TheMoistWorldOfSeptimusQuench · 18/08/2007 19:32

I work in the same office as my XP (DDs dad). I sit at a desk about 10 feet away from him, & have to listen to him droning on and on and on about what he & his new family got up to at the weekend, what car they're buying, what music they're listening to...

Laugh a minute it is (not)

nomdeplume · 18/08/2007 19:39

I don't work for the same company as DH, so this is mere conjecture....

Don't get me wrong, I adore DH, he is my very best friend as well as being the only man for me (feeling nauseous yet?!), but I don't think we could work together. Especially given the absolute fact that he would be a million times more senior than me.

Our family life at home is very equal. DH has a very senior position at his company and I couldn't ever hope to get anywhere near his post salary-wise (I'm not sure I'd want to tbh, I'm an NHS girl at heart, not a corporate animal. So job/employability/salary-wise we are poles apart, I think I would find the in-equality at work hard to deal with given the even keel at home.

[control freak, power-struggle emoticon]

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