New job - boss is hard - anxiety

[LazyLacey]

Started new job a week gone Monday
First job in 15 years I raised my children n was lucky I didn't need to work
Decided I wanted to work just a sales job in a office
Boss seemed nice charming really
Four days in things changed his mood for one
Working four hours a day not letting us take a break after four days there now it was make a sale n you can have a break
Vaping in the office none stop
My anxiety got too much today after seven days n I phoned in sick
He said well you want a day of next week for a funeral so it's not gonna look good
Do u have to go to that funeral !!!
I just say erm I guess not. He was like well the boss won't like it your a new starter n your sales will b down blah blah blah
Ok you can take today but get in for tomorrow

I really don't want to go back
I duno what to do
I can't connect the owner of the company I duno how
Advice please anyone

Do you need the money? If not leave and find something else. If you do need the money stay and be paid to look for something else. It sounds like he is under pressure. Sometimes you have to be bolshy I.e. I'm taking a break now and then I'll be back (then come back and be really good at your job) and tell him you don't want to come to work and be exposed to vapeing - if you don't establish that now its harder to challenge later.

Doesn't sound like you need to be there
I'd quit.

He is right that taking a sick day and a funeral day in the first few weeks of a new job doesn't make you look good.

A certain type of person thrives in sales jobs. Everyone else is miserable. If you aren't the right kind of person for sales, that's OK, but it would be best to figure that out and leave as quickly as possible before your confidence and spirit get crushed. Or you may have that spark and just need to get into the right headspace - that is OK too.

What actually attracted you to this job?

If you are only working 4hr shifts you don't get a break.

And yes, sick and a day unpaid so soon doesn't look good.

Guess I'm not cut out for work
I just wanted to feel part of normal society

Don't be silly. There is a huge spectrum between "not temperamentally suited to a high pressure sales job" and "not cut out for work or able to be part of normal society" - you need to have a better think about what your strengths are. The right opportunity exists but isn't going to simply fall into your lap.

Sales is a really tough place to go into if you have been out of the work place for a while. So maybe you are not suited to this.
Yes he doesn't sound great with the vaping.
But it is normal to work up to 6 hours without a break. Taking a funeral day and a sick day in the first few weeks would be seen as not great in any work place. Remember until you have been employed for 2 years you have very little protection as an employee.
However, there are plenty of other roles out there that could be really good for you.

I don't understand op. What do you mean he won't let you take a break after four days. What is your definition of a break? Is it lunch or a day off?

Have you ever worked in sales before? I personally couldn't do it, I don't have the right personality, it would be my idea of hell!

Some people just aren't suited to certain roles and I'd say the vast majority of people wouldn't be suited to selling so don't beat yourself up!

There are 1000's of other jobs out there. Don't write yourself off! However, I would be writing this job off.

Yeah sales is a hugely different beast to most other jobs. If you’re not suited to it, it will be hell.

Four hours without a break is standard (but shouldn’t include a toilet break if needed).

Just because this job isn’t right for you doesn’t mean there isn’t another one waiting that will feel better. I suffer from anxiety too so I know how hard it is to keep it together in stress+inducing situations, but keep calm, look around for something else.

@Bluntness10p I think OP said after four days he offered the incentive ‘make a sale, have a break.’

Sales is not 'normal work'

You don't need this stress, there are other jobs out there

Don’t be daft! It’s ONE bad boss! Leave his job and go and get a new one.

What do you LIKE doing?

Those who gave advice on this thread may be interested in this update and further development from the OP.