Worried I've made a terrible mistake

[thatmustbenigelwiththebrie]

I am in the process of working my notice period. I have been in my job for 7 years and it's OK, nothing awful about it. However the new job I have accepted is fewer hours which is what I want, and which current job has told me repeatedly they can't offer me.

However I am now having major cold feet. I am really hoping it's just me being scared of change and leaving but - I feel like things aren't that bad here in current job. I know what to do, everyone accepts me for who I am and I understand how it all works.

I am feeling a bit panicky about starting again - what if I hate it? What if everyone hates me? What if I can't do it?

Has anyone else ever felt like this and did it work out ok? (Please tell me it did). I've never had this feeling before as all the previous jobs I've left have been dreadful. so it's obviously for the better. But in this case it's just the hours I wasn't happy with, not the job itself.

Well if you hate it you hate it. Can't worry about that! You don't know anything about what's around the corner.

You've obviously got the skills to GET a job...so if you hate the new one...get another. That's the only way forward.

What's the worst thing that could happen?

Well...the worst thing is that the new job's awful and you can't get another...that's EXTREMELY unlikely because you've held one job down for 7 years and managed to get a new one.

You've got this @thatmustbenigelwiththebrie A change is always scary because even if something is shit, it's better the devil you know mentality that kicks in.

You're going to be fine. Tell us about the good bits of your new job. What are you looking forward to?

I found it reallly hard to leave a job I left last year after 5 years. I won't lie, it was a fucking wrench to start again somewhere else and the job I moved for turned out to be totally wrong (think being a dogsbody to someone else when you thought you were getting a job with autonomy /responsibility in line with your professional experience).

well I bitterly regretted leaving the first job and if someone had offered it back to me I would have taken it (no chance, they had recruited someone else and it was a one person per location type of job).

I did eventually get another job and whilst it took a while to settle in I was able after around 3 months to finally be able to say I was glad I left. I am still in touch with colleagues in the original job and all the issues I left for are still there. I would not have been happy had that fairy waved a magic wand and given me back my job there.

So... expect it to be a wrench and see it through. You wouldn't be leaving if it was all hunky dory in the first place.

Having said all that if you really think you've made a mistake you can always backtrack and ask to retract your resignation but I am 99% sure within a few months you'oll be wishing you'd left again.

A new job is always stressful and most people feel as you do, that’s normal. Don’t worry, if you have all the info you need about everything on the new job and it sounded ok then go for it. All the best

thatmustbenigelwiththebrie
What did you decide to do in the end?

Starting a new job is always going to be scary. Being the newbie is always daunting and getting to know a whole new set of colleagues is just mind boggling for the first few weeks whilst you learn everyone's names!

I was super nervous starting my new job (I've now been there just over a year). I was the youngest by about 20 years and had about 18 names to learn and 18 people's personalities and traits to learn, as well as the new job itself!

How I look at life in general (and apply to situations such as changes and new jobs etc)..... would I rather go for it and find out whether it was the right move, or stay where I am and constantly wonder "what if?" For the rest of my life??

That always seems to push me into just going for things in all aspects of my life whether it be work, home, hobbies, etc.

Xx

I start a new job next Monday after 21 years at my old place. Totally scared!