Working hours

[highlandmum2019]

Hi, first post here! I have a little boy who has just turned 2. I was working 9am to 5pm 3 days per week. I have just increased my days and now work 4 days. My little boy is absolutely fine leaving me and is thriving. He is with gran 2 days and day care 2 days and he loves both. My issue is I feel terribly guilty for working so many hours and can't shake the feeling that it will be something I regret later on. Has anyone else work that many hours and how has it affected your children?

Sounds like a decent arrangement, 3 days where you make up for him is a good time, then he mixes with his grand parent, and that's good for him too, as well as day care, for good social skills.

Lucky you to have a supportive system at home

Hi, I went back to work when my daughter was 4 months old, part time initially but then full time by the time she was a year old. She stayed with my parents and started nursery early too. She is coming up to 14 years old now and I could not ask for a better daughter. She knows my work ethic was to make money to afford things for us both (I'm a single parent) and she appreciates that I haven't just sat around living off the government. Yes I missed certain school projects and plays but she understands that work is important if you want the good things in life. So please don't worry, you're setting a very good example to your son.

Thank you both for your replies. Mum guilt is the worst. I’m so fortunate (and extremely grateful) to have such supportive parents, we would be lost without them. Thanks again xx

Mum guilt is part of being a parent I'm afraid. And gets worse when you have more than one! That said it proves you care.. we are all doing our best to make things good for our families so no guilt necessarily really. I think there's no Better place for kids to be than with their grandparents, time with them
Is short and how lovely they all have the opportunity to form that bond