Going back to work fulltime and dh working part time. Should I do it?

[Eddas]

I am having a very wierd day. Something in my family life isn't right atm and I think it's all down to work/life balance!

DH HATES his job. His company are talking redundancies. He has to work long hours, mon-fri 7.30-5 and sat 8.30-12.30.

I could earn the same money as he does working mon-fri 9-5.

I am currently on ML, ds is now 4months old. I have until End November before I really HAVE to go back to work, but am seriously considering an early return and full time instead of the part time(2 days) I was doing pre ML.

I think if dh were to leave his job and find part time work (evenings/week ends) he would be a lot happier and therefore so would we as a family. I have no worries about returning to work full time.

I have spoken to my boss today and they're not sure they could accomodate my full time request. Fair enough. and tbh i may be better off starting afresh elsewhere.

Does anyone have any comments, as in I did this and it works, or i did it and regret it.

Whatever happens something has to change in my life.

Eddas I have a friend who works four days 8.30 to 6.00 which is fine. Her dh works four evenings a week and also works Saturdays and Sundays. The only thing I would say is that when she is home he is working. They do share that one day a week together with baba but she is on her own at the weekends. She dreads Fridays.

hmm, i do know that if dh worked evenings and weekends then we'd not really see each other. but then i was thinking of doing an evening/weekend job myself after ML so same situation. Thing is childcare is damn expensive, we have an elder dd(3yo) so twice as much!

I guess I could look into 4 day week(longish hours) and dh works 2 days then 3rd days is ours. Then at least evening are kept free?

TOO MANY THINGS TO CONSIDER, it's hurting my head,lol!

Make sure you are both happy with the arrangement before you start afresh with another company. Good luck

If you can earn more than he can, and you can find a workable compromise, it's got to be worth considering.

Bear in mind it might be pretty hard to find suitable part time work. But does he HAVE to work now, or could he maybe set up something himself that he could do from home?

thanks for everyones input and we do both have to work as one wage just won't cover everything

My boss was back on the phone today, someone handed in their notice today and he's keen to have me back fulltime now(how things can change in a day!)

But DH and I talked it all though last night and have pretty much decided he will continue working fulltime until this time next year. Basically he talked to his boss about it and his boss said that he will be one of the last people to be made redunant, unoffically of course so there's no issue there now. DH also wants to hang on because he is due a large(well large to us,lol) cash bonus in Feb for being with his place ten years, and in aprik/my time his share save finishes and again we could be in line for a fair bit of cash(depending on the market etc at the time)

All in all i'm having a pretty weird week