Background so not to drip feed but it's long, sorry! I've worked for a company for 6 years now. Small office with 7 staff, nice place to work in general but can get manic and tense in busy periods. I started as an office assistant after 1st maternity leave from previous crappy office job. Over the last few years there has been a lot more focus on compliance in the sector we work in and a lot of it landed on my desk as none of the managers had the time or motivation to deal with it. I went off on my second maternity leave early 2018 and only took 4 months (during which time I worked 10 KIT days) then went back part time for another 3 months then back full time. When I went back the MD asked if I'd like to focus on the compliance and quality control areas and manage them in a newly created role starting Jan this year and they would take on someone for the other admin jobs. It would be same hours with a company car of my choice with reason and pay rise to follow once my workload had been established a bit better as it was a new position.
Fast forward 9 months and my issues are the following:
No pay rise other than company wide 2% at start of the year
Company car and fuel is costing me an extra £200 a month to HMRC (which I knew it would but had hoped a pay rise would offset a portion of this)
Time sensitive work issues mean I find myself answering emails and phone calls at weekends and at night
During busy periods I end up taking work home at night
Despite that I get the impression that the other managers resent that I work slightly shorter hours than they do and as such I end up staying late a lot but am nearly always still the first to leave at night due to childcare hours
Between that and not always being able take take my full hour unpaid lunch break I reckon they are getting an extra 5 hours a week from me over my normal hours
All of which has led to my OH saying for months now that he thinks work are taking the piss by expecting increased workload and stress over more hours with no extra pay. To put it into perspective, my take home pay is £30 more a month than someone working my contracted hours for national minimum wage - I'd actually earn more cash working in Aldi.
Between the pressure of new responsibilities at work and negativity at home when we hit a busy period at the start of the summer I dropped the ball work wise and made a few mistakes but nothing that was discaplinary worthy. I've since hit my stride and pulled off a couple of major successes. I feel like I should be asking for a payrise but I am worried my previous mistakes and inability to work longer hours due to family life will be held against me.
Long term this could be a great career but is the stress worth it now to be better off when DC are older and less dependant on me? Should I bring up a payrise and risk getting even more demoralised if I'm turned down? Or cut my losses and look for a minimum wage job with fewer prospects but less stress?