Meet the Other Phone. Only the apps you allow.

Meet the Other Phone.
Only the apps you allow.

Buy now

Please or to access all these features

Work

Chat with other users about all things related to working life on our Work forum.

Help me to make sense of my career and the choices I've made

7 replies

DontPressSendTooSoon · 05/07/2019 09:22

I feel like I can never make the right choices... I qualified in my profession (HR) 18 years ago and during my 20s I jumped around a lot but did manage to get some progression to manager/consultant level by going the interim route however this was at the expense of stability in one organisation.

I was on a 3 month contract as a consultant when I found out I was (unexpectedly ) pregnant and a job at a more junior level became available where I was working... I jumped at it thinking it would be good to get all the benefits of mat pay/leave and something to come back to. I shelved my career ambitions as I was focusing on starting a family.

I did go back to work and ended up having another baby, then fell into regional working whereby I was field based rather than office based although still at the more junior level. I loved the freedom of not having to go into an office from 9-5, being out on the road most days or working from home. For the first couple of years I enjoyed the job, then I began to get bored and wanted more development. The company I was working for were not very receptive to that, I had an awful boss who didn't believe in developing her staff and there was a bit of a 'keep them in their place' mentality to me and my peers.

I began to crave development and progression to the extent it gnawed at me, my boss then went on maternity leave but neither me or my colleague were considered for her role and we both got hacked off and left. The job I left for turned out to be completely wrong for me, mis-sold etc so I quit and thought I'd try and get back into a management role despite the fact that I'd become quite de skilled during my time at the home/field based role .

I did get a management role in an office based job, as field based jobs in my profession are not that common. Going back into an office after 7 years was an absolute shock to the system and I felt like a fish out of water in a big open plan thing, having to be there until a certain time, the commute... all the things you don't get with field based which is such a very different way of working.

I thought if I was going to quit I needed to do it sooner rather than later as two short lived jobs on my CV would not look good at all. I thought I need to go back to regional working, can't hack office life. I just find it really difficult to sit in the same place for 8 hours at a time, I need to be active. I felt like a caged tiger.

Anyway so I quit and did find another field based role quite quickly, but it was at the more junior level. I thought, fine, worth the trade off to not be office based and the money was the same as the job I'd just quit, more with the car allowance.

Well I've been there a few months now and it's okay but I can just see that I'm not going to get much growth out of this job. There isn't much of a career path I can see, I have one manager in head office and she is fine to let me get on with my work but doesn't give me much direction or opportunity to learn new skills ( i have asked).

So the old ambition feeling has come back, this sense that I'm working beneath my potential.

I'm not going to quit as I need some stability on my CV for at least a year. But then what? Do I go back into an office role to get the growth I need? Field based roles at the next rung on the ladder are very rare and very sought after. I'm not sure I'll get the development and experience here to really be able to compete for those. Do I go back down the interim route?

I love being field based but its very definitely been at the expense of career development. I do sometimes wonder if I just have 'grass is greener' syndrome and I'll never be happy. But I also have a deep desire to progress and develop my career that I can push down, but it keeps coming back. I know I can't have it all, so how do I choose and commit to something? I feel like I keep making choices and regretting them.

OP posts:
daisychain01 · 05/07/2019 17:11

If you are qualified in your field could you provide an outsourced service to local businesses who need HR support but do not want an HR department.

It's a running joke on here "contact HR" "we don't have an HR department" which suggests there are many companies that could use that kind of service.

It could mean you are your own boss, can work remotely and visit your clients on an as needed basis. Zero rat race, zero competition with corporate sharks trying to do one over on each other etc.

HidingFromDD · 05/07/2019 17:17

Tbh, I'd do what works best for you while dc are young as long as you keep in the job market. I parked my career for 15 years (pt project manager) and refocused on it mid 40s. In 10 years I've gone up to senior management and salary increased by 250%. Is there anything you could be doing outside work that would add to your cv and give you a bit of challenge?

flowery · 05/07/2019 17:42

Come and work with me and do what @daisychain01 said! I spend most of my time supporting HR professionals doing exactly that.

DontPressSendTooSoon · 06/07/2019 13:10

I'd love to do something like that @flowery and have MCIPD / level 7 qual.. I've always been too scared to do it on my own but I'd be keen to find out more, will PM you

OP posts:
flowery · 06/07/2019 14:54

I had my account set to block all PMs @DontPressSendTooSoon so if you’ve already sent it you might need to resend- I’ve unblocked now (I think!)

DontPressSendTooSoon · 08/07/2019 11:27

PM'd you @flowery hope it came thru!

OP posts:
flowery · 08/07/2019 15:24

Yes it did I’ve seen it, am out and about but will respond later when I’m back!

New posts on this thread. Refresh page