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I think I’m being forced out of my job. I need advice, I have no idea what’s happening

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Mummytowooter · 07/06/2019 20:15

I work for a private company and have done so for less than 2 years. When I started I had an excellent line manager with regular 1:1 meetings. No concerns about my performance were raised and I had excellent feedback.

My line manager suddenly went off sick a few months ago and very quickly my workload rocketed. I had no clear line manager and all of a sudden 4 senior management priorities became mine. I couldn’t cope. I was invited to a meeting where this was discussed and again no issues were raised about my performance and support offered. I don’t know why but this meeting, despite the “supportive measures” made me feel uneasy to the point I asked if I was being performance managed. I was reassured this was not the case and again no performance issues were identified.

A senior manager then began to oversee my department, again we had regular 1:1 meetings and no issues or concerns ever raised. For several months I have raised concerns about my workload and how unmanageable it has been.

I now have another line manager, someone who is new to the organisation and new to the role. Things seemed to be going well but again my workload intensified and I began to suffer with work related stress. After a few weeks it reached a peak where I was struggling to even manage my workload, didn’t know where to start and would just sit and cry in my office. One afternoon I was invited for a catch up where I was told there were issues with my performance and that I would need to meet with HR and my manager in a few days to discuss. I explained I agreed that my performance wasn’t great but this was as a direct result of the level of stress I was under at work. I thought I would be supported with this but my manager continued with informal capability management. I was given a list of things I had not done, many of which I would have been able to address and rectify if someone had actually just said to me these needed to change. I accept I wasn’t in a great place. I now feel that my job is not safe and I have no choice but to leave the organisation. I then had several weeks off with work related stress. Several of the things they asked me to do we’re supposed to have been picked up whilst I was off work but on my return I was told these were no longer needed. If this is the case why am I been managed because I didn’t do them? I had valid (or so I thought) reasons why I hadn’t done them earlier.

There is much more to this but any further information I give would be far too outing. Just to be clear I accept that there are areas I could have done better in but if there were issues, I certainly wasn’t informed of them and have not been given the opportunity to correct this.

Sorry this was so long but I’m hoping someone can offer guidance. I have consulted my trade union already and I am waiting to meet a rep. Like I say, there is more to this but can not elaborate further. There is currently someone else in my role and I have been asked to consider leaving my department to work so I can “catch-up”

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Mummytowooter · 08/06/2019 14:58

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SummerHouse · 08/06/2019 15:07

I have been asked to consider leaving my department to work so I can “catch-up”

What are you being asked to do? Work in a different department? None of this sounds like your fault. It's more about management, or lack of it. I would just head in with no wounded pride or ego and work as best I could on what I was given. They don't deserve this but it will be the best plan for you too. Flowers for the shoddy treatment.

Mummytowooter · 08/06/2019 15:16

I think that’s pretty much what I’m doing to be honest. As hard as it is I just want to leave with my dignity. It’s in my nature to put up a bit of a fight at times particularly in when things feel unfair. Just trying to keep my mouth shut, get the job done and walk out on schedule to my new job in a few weeks x

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SummerHouse · 08/06/2019 15:38

Absolutely understand that. Unfairness is really hard to accept. Just think you are off to a better place and it's their loss. It would be easy to hate them but that just ends up hurting you. Good luck. Hope you have some people IRL on your side. You need some venting.

flowery · 08/06/2019 18:11

"Just trying to keep my mouth shut, get the job done and walk out on schedule to my new job in a few weeks"

You have a new job? In which case really don't worry about it. Also, during the first two years it wouldn't be necessary to "force" someone out of their job - they could just dismiss you if they wanted to fairly easily.

Mummytowooter · 08/06/2019 18:43

Yes Summer, thankfully some lovely friends in the same organisation going through similar issues. 😢 it’s not a great place to be

Yes absolutely flowery 😢 very little support during the first two years. So easy to just get rid

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