How many hours are reasonable

[Kikamum]

Hi,

Provided you have a 1yo active baby that doesn’t attend nursery and your husband is busy with work and doesn’t help with either chores or the baby- how many hours is it reasonable to work from home a day?

0, you can't productively work from home and look after a child at the same time. I know, I have a 3 year old and have tried on days when he has been ill.

thanks,
I work every night 8-12pm after LO goes to bed and I clean up. I am tired and dont get done enough. I was wondering with the other working mums- I just dont feel like I am doing enough. Any tips?

Maybe not the sort of tip you're looking for, but perhaps your husband needs to pull his weight with home and parenting responsibilities...?

I've been working from home since oldest was 18m ish, not loads of hours, and mainly at night, but it's only been possible because my DH doesn't view the home and parenting as my sole responsibility.

Absolutely could not work from home with DD (active and walking 10 month old) - I work 4 days a week, 3 days in the office and 1 from home, she still goes to nursery on that day.

It's the perfect balance for me - I can't do the SAHP thing but the 1 extra day after the weekend with her is nice.

Top tip. Leave the house when your husband comes home. He can tidy and look after the baby.

Either it’s really easy as you’re expected to look after baby, do all the housework and work. In which case it’s no hardship expecting him to do a bit.

Or it’s to much to do all three at once. In which case he needs to step up if you need/want to work.

Thanks but it seems things are not turning the way I want them. I have a major relationship issue with my husband and I was trying to see if it’s me or it’s my husband.

Now I came to a conclusion that he is abusive and I am trying to figure things out as difficult as it is.

He never looks after my LO on his own, house and baby are my responsibility and he gets very aggressive if I don’t get my work down in the evening (our business).

So thanks everyone, it seems it’s him who is irresponsible ba.

Ahh I'm sorry you're in this position OP, that's rough. So good that you've realised what's going on. What's your plan now?