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What bis your experience of mediation?

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itsboiledeggsagain · 22/05/2019 07:25

There is an individual at work who is very difficult to work with. She is skilled at her job but does not appear to get on well with others particularly well, including me. Since she became a manager she has been very critical of senior managers and verbally is creating a divide - the staff v the managers. She has met with chief exec who has taken on board some of her criticism.

She particularly dislikes me and is often short, rude or critical of my work. I always try to be pleasant back but she is the type to blank you and walk off if you ask a question. She has said she wants mediation with me to improve the relationship. I have agreed but have my doubts as to how it will work as she won't engage at all with me (and another member of staff) at the moment.

Does anyone have any ideas whether mediation is a good idea, whether it will work and what I might do to give it the best shot of it working?

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Spam88 · 22/05/2019 07:37

No advice but following because I'm in a position where I'm probably going to have to go through mediation.

Wooosh · 22/05/2019 08:56

I'm a workplace mediator with my company (I have the qualification from ACAS). In my experience mediation has a high success rate of reaching agreement between the parties, at least in the short term.
Go in with an open mind, be as honest as you feel able and talk freely. Have a few ideas on what your ideal outcomes are and what points you would like to raise in the discussion.
Good luck!

Artbum · 22/05/2019 20:03

Personally my experience of mediation was so negative I would never go there again. I was bullied by my line manager, did not have enough evidence for a grievance and it was suggested I try and resolve it like that. I was told it was ‘not all about me’ by the mediators and how awful it was for my manager. Of course my manager must have been justified in saying I was a really horrible person who everyone hated!

Sounds like she is trying to apportion blame on you and I would be very wary about doing so - you have done nothing wrong.

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