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Should I just quit, or stick it out for the maternity leave?

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Sajacas · 17/05/2019 10:07

I am 15 weeks pregnant with my first at 37 and I really just want to quit my job.

It's a new job in a new company and it is a struggle for me. I feel like I am only just doing what I need to do at work, but not actually doing anything very well. The role is quite isolated, there is no one who can help, and it has quite a lot of repsonsibility. Emotionally, it is stressing me out and I constantly dread going in to work. I also hate the feeling of not doing a good job, and feel like the company would be better off with out me.
But...
I have only been in the role for 6 months, and if I leave now it will look pretty awkward on my CV. It was a step up for me, and later on I can justify leaving due to prgnancy and not being able to do the commute anymore, but leaving before hand will be a harder sell. Also, I will not be able to find a new job while pregnant, this is just a reality of where I live and what I do.
On the other hand: If i just stick it out and work till birth, I will get about 3 months maternity leave, all my paid holiday for the year and it will look much better on the CV. I can hand in my notice during maternity leave and I can start looking for a new job when I have child care sorted.
Financially, I know it would be better to keep working, and I kind of want to 'get what I am owed'. But having said that, I am in the lucky position that I can just ditch it if I decide to as I have enough savings to make it work and DH would be happy to cover all the bills.
I keep going back and forth about it, but my emotions are all over the place and I don't even know if this pregnancy crazy and will just pass.
(I didn't like the job before I was pregnant, but I knew I had to stick it for a year or till I found something else.)

Any advice would be appreciated. I have talked this over with DH, and he will support me either way, but he expects me to make a firm decison and justify it, and I'm not sure I am capable of that at the moment.

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flowery · 17/05/2019 10:11

Assuming you are in the UK you can start your maternity leave in 14 weeks. It would be daft to hand in your notice now with everything you'd lose by doing so.

You will qualify for statutory maternity pay in even fewer weeks than that, which you'll get even if you resign. But I'd stick it out until 29 weeks, and start maternity leave then, and take a year (or until you find a new job) and then resign to start the new job.

However you say you'll only get about 3 months maternity leave, are you in a different country, as in the UK you can take a year.

QueenofPain · 17/05/2019 10:15

Don’t quit yet. Make your final decision once you’re actually on maternity leave with your new baby, and in a position to consider your options about returning/SAHM, etc,

SleepingStandingUp · 17/05/2019 10:16

You need to be mindful of what maternity pay you have to pay back if you quit during mat leave.
But I would be tempted to stay and got on mat leave early

Sajacas · 17/05/2019 11:42

I'm British, but I am currently based in Switzerland: here you get 14 weeks of paid leave, at 80% salary, but it only starts the day you give birth. You can't take it early. The first 8 weeks are actually mandatory! You are not allowed to go back to work!
Here it seems to be expected that you work till you give birth. You can get signed off sick, but sick leave is a different kind of insurance here. Because I am new I am only entitled to a max a three weeks. Any other time off on a sick note would be unpaid.

After the paid maternity leave, any time off work is unpaid and companys are free to offer unpaid breaks but not obliged to do so. Here it is normal that kids are put in 'Krippe' at three months when/if Mummy goes straight back to work. But the costs are high: for me it would be working to pay for childcare, and I don't see the point. Not for a job I don't enjoy. I don't plan to go back after maternity leave, the commute and child care costs would be unbearable.

But luckily there are no penalties for quitting during maternity leave, it just needs to be timed right, so that the nortice period matches the maternity leave. The payment for maternity leave is a kind of insurance here and the cost is split between the company and the lcoal government, and actually funded by social insurance payments taken from wages.

Pregnant workers are quite well protected here, they cannot be fired between conception and the end of maternity leave.

Sticking it out just seems like such a slog.

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SleepingStandingUp · 17/05/2019 14:50

Honestly if you don't need the money I'd be tempted to just quit then, you've got 25-27 weeks left

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