Struggling/Failing

[OutnumberedBy2]

I feel like im struggling and failing as a wife and a mum. I've recently gone back to work full time. My children are only one & two so when we get them from nursery around 5 we have lots of play time then it's supper bath & bed. Im getting downstairs around 8pm and have no energy to then cook tea for us so we're eating alot of fast food which I hate but don't have the motivation or energy. I know a semi solution is slow cooker but my husband doesn't really like anything you can make in a slow cooker. When my boys get older will this change/ get easier 😥

What is your husband doing?

Working too. We work for his business and he has a new huge contract which means he's working harder and longer

Sorry that was very abrupt. If he is also playing, bathing, reading to the kids and also putting them to bed. Then you need to take it in turns to deal with the children, and cook dinner.

Those ages and working FT must be hard. Is your H sharing the domestic work and parenting?

Dividing your efforts can be a good approach. Or reduce playtime / bedtime with the DCs in order for one of you to sort out a healthier meal.

We kinda do that But instead of tea we tend to get the housework washing ironing ect done

Okay, so you are both working hard in the workplace and full time. You need to be equal in the home too.
Maybe at the weekend you could both do some batch cooking. You can then reheat during the week, along with the odd ready meal, takeaway it’s fine, you do what you’ve got to do.

Tour children are too young to entertain themselves much, it’ll get easier when they’re older. But while they’re eating, can one of you be preparing dinner for the grown ups, while the other sits with the children?

Eat at the same time as the kids.

Kids should just have a smaller portion of what you eat then it's one job lot.

Also, do they need a bath every night (never bathed mine daily)?
Ironing and cleaning aren’t as important as eating.
Leave ironing and cleaning until the weekend, consider employing someone to do it for you if finances allow.

The boys have tea in nursery. Before I went full time we were eating with the boys but as they've had a tea and only need a supper we aren't cooking half as much as we used to

Ejectorcrab we are going to look at hiring a cleaner. we are just waiting to see what we have left over as our nursery fees have got a lot higher so just need a couple weeks to get used to it

What is your dh doing while you are doing bedtime? Does he get home at 8pm?

Suggest prioritising food over cleaning. Definitely hire a cleaner.

We don’t iron anything but workwear (office jobs).

He cleans up makes lunches and does paperwork for the next day at work xx

Batch cooking! All the way! We have 4 different meals in our freezer (shepherds pie, chilli, meatballs & veggie stew) just made 5 (2 person) portions of tomato pasta sauce today, 4 of which will go in the freezer. If you can make a batch every weekend you'll start to build a variety in the freezer (as opposed to eating the same thing for 5 nights!) Also if your DH doesn't like slow cooker recipes, what's his suggestion? It doesn't just fall on you, you know

I will try batch cooking only problem is he prefers to eat chicken only

You can reheat chicken.

Maybe meal planning would help? Chuck in some very quick simple meals like omelettes?