this might be long post but please stick with it....
my dd is 21 months, i work full time as a general manager in a restaurant. i work 9>5.30pm 3 days a week and 4>1am (or later) 2 days a week. my dp is a general manager in a bar and works shifts too (less hours but more evenings). we have a childminder 2 days a week and a babysitter 1 evening a week. dp is really struggling with the pressure of trying to work out our rotas and arrange who is having dd when. he says i never put my family first and cant say no to work. i feel like i cant say no, ie if my assistant manager calls in sick i have to cover the shift. i think the pressure of me working f/t is making dp quite depressed. he misses his family (he's portuguese so all family are in portugal). i think he wants me to leave and get a p/t job so i will spend more time with him and dd.
i do put work before my family sometimes but i dont feel like i have any choice. ive worked so hard to get this job and have no idea what else i could do, ive never done anything else. i know dd would be better off if i was at home more and was fully focused on her not worrying about the restaurant all the time.
i should leave shouldnt i? i know i should because my realationship is gonna fall apart if i dont but what else would i do, how do i start another career but just do it part time for a few years?
help!