I work PT 2 evenings a week in a small village pub. There have always been issues with a few members of the football team since I started last June.
Normal stuff you expect drunken mid 20 blokes who think their god's gift to women. For the most part I ignore or tell them to pipe down.
Last Saturday 3 team members came in late (they had been playing away and won) so we're already pretty merry...now the LL doesn't worry too much about serving drunk's as long as they don't do damage... pretty standard for the area we live in.
As the night wore on, the comments that started as flirty rubbish they claimed was banter "leave your husband, you want a football winner" to physical contact and attempting to get kisses, paying in exact change and grabbing my hand. Staring at my chest, in a way that made me really uncomfortable.
In the end I said they picked up their act, or no more drinks, only to be abused that I need to be able to take a bit of banter, it's only a joke blah blah blah, but 2 of the three did settle down.
I left the bar to go to the kitchen/cellar shortly after this, when the third followed me on the pretence of going to the toilet and said that he could teach me how to relax, and the next time I went to the kitchen (passing through the games room) they'd put me over the pool time and have a good time - I'd learn to enjoy it.
I was pretty shaken, and other locals in the bar also noticed it was getting out of hand. The Land lady came down and I said I was getting close to hitting someone if they touched me or invaded my space...she asked why, I said that the flirting and garbbing, at which point she interrupted me and told me to take it as a compliment, but if it made it any easier she would sit downstairs until end of my shift.
A few moments later, the guy who had threatened me cracked the 2 other guys heads together, breaking ones nose. So landlady called her hubby down (LL). He dealt with it and continued to serve. It was time for me to go, so the local that had stayed around until I finished so I wasn't alone with these guys, left, and another local who had called in on his way home who had realised how upset/shaken I was offered to walk me to the car. Landlord and Landlady said bye and I left.
My dad is ready to murder the entire football team as I won't give him names. DH is on the same page.
I know I should have spoken to LL on the night but to be honest I just wanted to get out. Landlady like drink a bit to much to be worth talking too.
I am dreading Saturday as it will be a home match. Chances are these three won't remember a thing, and as soon as LL and Lady came in they behaved. DH and DM say to go and see LL tomorrow before I work again on Friday, but I don't know how to explain, especially as I didn't say anything at the time...in the same breath I'm terrified of being on on Saturday and being alone.
LL is nice enough, but just brushed previous complaints off about these lads... I guess I am expecting him to do the same.
I only 'have' to work until May, but I do enjoy the job usually and have got on really well with all the locals (save a small number of footballers), and when we move that way it will be our local too
I guess I'm asking (in a rambling way, I do apologise for how long the post is but couldn't condense it further) do I speak to LL tomorrow before my next shift on Friday, do I speak to him on Friday, or just leave it until next time it happens?
And how do I explain why I didn't say anything then and there on the night?