I started a new job eight months ago. It is not what I expected. I’m being micromanaged by my manager who treats me and my colleagues like school children. I’m a relatively senior member of the team and this is stifling and unbearable. I’ve tried to address it at a number of levels, and nothing has or apparently can be done. It’s dragging me down and seriously seriously affecting my life outside of work. I’m usually very positive and upbeat and can deal with stress at work but feel so down and have done since I started. The rest of my team are friendly good people.
As a result, I’ve resigned. We can cope financially but would have to cut back on holidays / doing up the house. So I do need to go back to work. My plan was to get a fixed term contract but I none have come up in my location. This is because we are planning to TTC in a couple of months (I’m nearly 34). I didn’t want to stay where I am so miserable and put my life on hold in case we didn’t get pregnant straight away. However, I’m reluctant to take a permanent role in case I do get pregnant straight away (I doubt I’d go back afterwards). Anyway, I had applied for a very flexible permanent role (two days in the office, two from home), again quite senior, with a great salary on a whim at the beginning of the year and forgot about it. They invited me for interview out of the blue last week, I was persuaded to go by the recruiter and got offered the job. Since then, work have asked me to stay but haven’t addressed the management issues (but have said I could do 4 days a week).
I’ve never been so torn about a decision in my life. It sounds silly but it’s getting me down and I feel a complete mess. Do I stay where I am, knowing I’m really down but it might only be for another year (but longer if TTC takes longer) - I’d have to just suck it up and leave work at work which would be hard. Or do I take a new job - knowing it’s really flexible, the people seemed nice and could be a fresh start and take the pressure off if TTC takes a while? But knowing I’m TTC and wouldn’t go back. Or take some time off, clear my head and wait for something interim to come along?
In truth, although I’ve had a really successful career, I just want a nice job now (where I’m treated like an adult) and to then have some kids and give up work for a few years whilst they’re small.