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Complete change of career - advice needed!!

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moomina · 08/09/2004 21:06

Right, well, the thing is that I have been mulling over and over the idea of training as a midwife. It feels 'right' to me - although it is a million miles away from anything I have ever done before. It would mean lots of changes and lots of sacrifices. I need some good MN advice on whether I'm mad to even consider it.

At the moment I have a part-time job which suits me brilliantly in terms of flexibility etc but is totally unchallenging and a bit of a dead end. It's also not very well paid at all - so much so in fact that training as a midwife would probably bring in more money - I think I would be eligible for a single-parent, one-dependent bursary which would be more than I earn now.

However, training would be full-time and based in London (1 hour+ commute each way). Ds would be just over two years if I started Sept 2005 and starting school when I graduate. I feel like I would miss out on a hell of a lot as I love being able to spend the time with him now. And of course the practical, hospital-based stuff would include shift work and nights, wouldn't it?

Plus, doing this would mean, effectively, that I can't move from where I am now - at my parents' place. This has benefits in that I wouldn't have to worry about someone looking after ds and he would have the stability of staying in one place, plus free accomodation (!!) but do I really want to be living with my mum and dad at the age of 35?

The idea of training really excites me. But it's a total change (I've got a publishing/journalism background) and the last thing I would want is to get halfway through and give up. Is this realistic? Any thoughts?

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deegward · 08/09/2004 21:11

lurk

moomina · 08/09/2004 21:12

lol deegward - thanks!

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deegward · 08/09/2004 21:13

No seriously, I think to do something like this you would REALLLY want to do it, as it would be a big hassle for quite a time. I think if it is something you really want to do, go for it, as all the heartache will be worthwhile. Although is it not that you just feel unfullfilled at the moment, and maybe changing slightly might help. Anyway back to lurking

stupidgirl · 08/09/2004 21:17

Follow your heart. If this is something you really want to do then you will regret it if you let the opportunity slide. If you want to spend the time with ds while he's small then you could consider putting it off for a year or 2. Could you get some training or work experience of some kind working in this field to help you decide?

moomina · 08/09/2004 21:20

The idea of it really fires me up, whereas the idea of either continuing in the field I am in now or branching out, perhaps to revitalise a non-existent freelance writing career just makes me feel as if I'm doing it because I should and it's what's expected of me, rather than because I want to. If I did this (midwifery) it would be entirely because I want to. But it's such a big jump. I just don't know.

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moomina · 08/09/2004 21:22

Sorry stupidgirl, posts crossed. Thing is, I'll be 32 if I start next year. I'll be 35 when I graduate. I don't want to put it off any longer. If I'm going to do it I feel I should do it asap, IYSWIM.

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StickyNote · 08/09/2004 21:26

Have you changed your name recently moomina? Am I right in thinking living with your parents has not been entirely straightforward? How about taking this opportunity to train somewhere other than London and living in hospital accommodation with ds? That's two extra hours a day that you'd get to spend with him. I know that you'd have to find alternative childcare with all the associated worries but it could be just the opportunity you're looking for to make a totally new start. Just a thought...

StickyNote · 08/09/2004 21:26

Hope I've got the right person otherwise you'll think I'm completely barking.

deegward · 08/09/2004 21:27

go for it, I'll hold off having next child until 2008 when you graduate 'pose better go tell dh that we'll being have #3 in 4 years time

moomina · 08/09/2004 21:35

StickyNote - yes, you have got the right person Things aren't straightforward but, touch wood, they have improved a little recently. My mum's not very well (depression, etc) and it is hard sometimes but she and my dad are a great support in lots of ways, too. But yes, it does impact on my decision in several areas. Thanks for remembering!

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SueW · 08/09/2004 21:41

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moomina · 10/09/2004 11:52

Hi and thanks to everyone who's replied. I have decided to go for it - have sent off for the application form, will fill it in, send it off, and then worry about all the practicalities if and when I get offered a place.

Competition is indeed fierce and the only practical experience I have is, ummm, having had a baby! So I'm a bit on the back foot already but I figure nothing good can come of me tying myself up in knots worrying about whether this is the right thing to do or not.

I just have to do it. It's about time I went out and made something happen rather than just waiting around for life to happen to me. Thanks again.

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