Problems at work

[Loner21]

Being dealing with a lot of stress at work.
The work atmosphere is horrible.
Everyone is so clickie.

I've got to the point where I lie awake in dread of going to work.

I've been working at the same place for a few years.
There been lots of staff changes and huge turn over.
I feel like an outsider at work...no body seems to really like me .
All the new staff and manager get on like a house of fire.
They told me that my manager doesn't like me and they want to keep in her good books as she gives them whatever they want.
I don't know why she doesn't like me,
I work hard, good with customer, trained all the new staff.
Come in and help when there short.

I also been really friendly and helpful to everyone. Make every effort at work.
But the exclude me from work outing or to put another way dont invite me.

They even told me that no body wants to come to my leaving drink. Because no body likes me.
My feelings were really hurt and the first time in seven years I nearly cried....didn't let them see though.
I'm beginning to think maybe no body will like me at my new place.
My self confidence is shattered.

If you're leaving this company, don't bother with leaving drinks, just head off with your head held high, never look back, and start afresh with the new job,

Sometimes you have to care a lot, lot less about work. It genuinely isn't a place to make friends and be liked, it's there to pay your bills. If you have fun along the way that's a bonus but not a hill to die on.

My boss insists to me that she will only be available at 9am, and that is for queries, but only after I have exhausted exploring with other staff, researching the intranet and policies, etc.

I always check that she is on her own in her office then I knock and pop my head around the door, asking her if she has a moment please. She has now stated that I am not to enter her office untill she has said 'enter'.

I am off Management level and would never lay down such rules to my team/staff. I am there to support them and would rather them ask me a question if they are unsure of something.

What do others make of my Managers behaviour please? I am struggling to understand, as it seems she is making herself unapproachable.

Sorry wrong thread.

Friday your manager has a side gig on Instagram

They told me that my manager doesn't like me and they want to keep in her good books as she gives them whatever they want

There is no reason at all for your colleagues to tell you this. They are stirring massively.

Hopefully the new place will be totally different, but if you run into this childish behaviour again you need to see it for what it is, and not take their comments at face value

There was no need to tell you that people dont like you, that's just bitchy, childish and extremely unprofessional and I doubt it's even true. If they gossip about you then they will be gossiping about everyone else but they dont think like that, they like to think they are a special little group but they are not, they sound just like my old colleagues. Dont let these wasters upset you, you are worth more than this, let them get on with there silly little games.Its gang mentality bullying, enjoy your new job and forget about these people.