Offered the job I want but I have to travel

[salfordmate]

I have been going for the next step up at work for some time and have finally secured the job on a 12 month maternity cover basis. I was desperate for a change from what I was doing for various reasons!

However, it would probably mean at least one night away a week and a bit of travelling (I didn't anticipate it to be as much as it is although perhaps should have expected it on reflection) Anyway, I now feel sick about the thought of being away, I have a 5 and 3 year old and a husband and a masters I'm finishing. I do now feel I've made a terrible mistake and shouldn't have gone for it (I know I should have realised this sooner) but think if anything I need to turn it down now and face the consequences of everyone being mad at me rather than start the job and give up a few months in. Has anyone ever turned an internal job down and how did it go, I feel terrified to do it but feel more terrified about doing the job, and getting to grips with the new job and being away.

I know I put myself in this situation but need a way out 😰

It’s 12 months. The person you're covering could return early from maternity leave. You and your family will get into a routine. Maybe staying in a job that’s unsatisfying may be a struggle. HOWEVER if it’s too soon withdraw. People will get over. Get your big girl knickers on and brace yourself. Good luck 😉

Do it. You could use the time in a hotel to get some masters work done.

Was going to say the same as Primal.

My DH is away one night a week with similarly aged kids. FaceTime in the evening before bed and try to keep the night away as similar of predictable as possible.

They won't always like it, but they also won't always hate it.

Speaking as the parent who isn't getting the night away every week, maybe make sure DH can have a lie in one day at the weekend, of something to give him a breather too.

*of = or!