Meet the Other Phone. A phone that grows with your child.

Meet the Other Phone.
A phone that grows with your child.

Buy now

Please or to access all these features

Work

Chat with other users about all things related to working life on our Work forum.

Difficult boss - how to approach this

2 replies

afrikat · 16/01/2019 13:59

Boss started in position last August, been in place for 5 months or so. Very quickly we had concerns about his competence as he didn't seem to understand much of the agenda he'd been employed to cover. He's technically a specialist in one particularly area, which is a very big and visible risk for the company right now but this is one part of what he is supposed to lead on (he is the Head of the department). Fine, we thought, we will give him lots of support in the other areas and help him get up to speed. He just doesn't take any of it in though and when he goes about the business, supposedly leading the whole agenda, he falls back on talking about this one area and it's starting to cause some real damage.

Competence aside, he has shown some worrying behaviours. He is defensive and aggressive if you suggest trying to help him with something as he sees it as a personal attack. Me and his other direct reports spend a great deal of time and energy trying to figure out a way to word things so he doesn't get angry with us. He plays favourites, if you're in the 'inner circle' he will confide in you and is like your best buddy. If not he talks to you like shit. He talks about all of us to each other, criticising directly. He's taken against someone in my team and keeps calling me to complain about stuff she's done. Ridiculous complaints.

There is a reorganisation due within the next 6 months and he keeps talking about looking for people he wants to keep/get rid of which has everyone on edge and everyone is scared to speak up as he could just get a million times worse if it wasn't dealt with properly. His boss is very senior and swamped with this reorganisation stuff so I don't even know if he'd be terribly interested

We've gone from a happy, passionate team to stressed, scared and constantly walking on eggshells so he doesn't yell/get angry etc. It's mad!

Any suggestions??

OP posts:
MzHz · 19/01/2019 08:09

I think you have to tell the overall boss!

If this bloke isn’t cutting the mustard, with the reorganisation in progress, now is precisely the time to do it!

Plus, it may help to get rid of him now so soon into the process. If he came via a recruiter, there may be staged payments that make it easier and more beneficial to discontinue his role

What this man has done to your team in such a short time is critically important for your overall boss to know

You don’t have to do this alone, could a couple/few of you ask to see the main boss?

afrikat · 21/01/2019 13:31

Thanks MzHz. A few of us got together this morning and drafted a document with all the issues / evidence we could think of (it's a long list!) and we are going to ask for a meeting with the main boss to at least make him aware of the really severe ones. The more we talked about it the more we realised most of what he does falls into the bullying / harassment category so it may be easier to get on the main bosses radar

OP posts:
New posts on this thread. Refresh page
Please create an account

To comment on this thread you need to create a Mumsnet account.

This thread is closed and is no longer accepting replies. Click here to start a new thread.

Swipe left for the next trending thread