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Situation at work. Colleague constantly asking me for help.

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BreadstickswithHummus · 12/01/2019 15:12

Please bear with me on this. I’m not very good at articulating myself across very well when under stress, so I might go on a bit, and I’ll try not to dripfeed.

I work as a receptionist for the NHS in a busy outpatient clinic. I don’t work directly for the clinic itself, but under a different dept and different manager.

I’m left to work on my own sometimes, and as I’ve worked there a long while, I have developed a routine which seems to work well. It means everything is done on time, most of the staff seem happy with my work, and I get on with the staff. Until now.

Over the last few weeks, a situation with one of my colleagues has developed that I’m not happy with.

My colleague “Jane” is the admin assistant for the clinic. She is a band higher than me, and has worked for the dept for much longer.

Jane has always been a bit funny with me, trying to undermine my work, then when I went through a period of training people to do my role, she told them (and all the world) I was doing it wrong.

I ignored her, and for a while things seemed ok, but she has suddenly started coming down from her office, and is constantly asking me to help her do her job. Being the way she has with me, plus we are going through a very busy period, I declined (very nicely).

But Jane has now took it to a higher level, by asking other staff in the clinic to ask me to help her, and when I decline (different job, different pay scale, I’m busy etc) they are saying I’m being cruel and unhelpful to Jane. I’m gutted that they are saying this. I feel she has deliberately turned people against me.

It doesn’t help that she comes and goes when she pleases,, with her phone stuck to her ear constantly. There is always a crisis in the family, and she has to leave suddenly, then moans on her return she hasn’t done such a such, then, yes you’ve guessed it: she comes to ask me for help.

I’ve tried talking to Jane’s manager about the constant requests for help, but Jane is a favourite so I dont get far, and she seems scared of her.

What do I do? Is it wise to speak to my own manager about this, or is that a bad idea? I mean, what would I say? It sounds laughable, but it’s no laughing matter.

I’m sorry if some of this sounds petty. I never ask Jane for help. I keep myself to myself mostly, I get on with it, and until now I got on with the people I work with. I was so happy. That’s what stresses me the most.
What do I do? What would you do? Am I in the wrong ?

OP posts:
Belishaa · 12/01/2019 18:44

Of course you speak to your own manager.

Say "I'm finding it difficult to get my tasks done, because Jane often asks for help with X".

Either your manager will tell you to focus on your own tasks, in which case you tell Jane "I'm sorry I can't help, my manager has asked me to focus on this". Or they'll tell you that Jane's tasks need more support so you should do them instead of what you're currently doing.

kalinkafoxtrot45 · 12/01/2019 18:48

Yes, speak to your own manager about this. Your own work is being affected.

LittlePaintBox · 12/01/2019 18:51

Definitely speak to your manager, and ask for guidance on what you should be prioritising.

redexpat · 13/01/2019 12:30

If anyone tries to talk to you about it on her behalf I would reply along the lines of if Jane is struggling with her workload then she needs to talk to her line manager. Her role is simply not my business.

flowery · 13/01/2019 12:42

With any issue regarding your work, always speak to your own manager first. That’s their job.

percypeppers · 13/01/2019 18:59

Speak to your manager. Tell him/her she is constantly asking you to do work that is hers/outside your remit/a higher banding.

Failing that, join a union and get them involved.

sackrifice · 14/01/2019 09:02

I agree with referring them to jane's line manager.

SnuggyBuggy · 14/01/2019 09:09

I agree speak to your manager and try to get some clarity about what is your work, what is Jane's work and if there is any grey area or reasonable overlap.

Also Jane shouldn't be asking you or anyone else to do her work. She should speak to her supervisor who should discuss with your supervisor what help you have the time to give.

I feel for you. Every office seems to have a long timer who gets away with whatever they want purely because of the length of time they have been there.

gamerwidow · 14/01/2019 09:12

Just to echo what everyone else has said, speak to your manager.
They need to know about any situations developing that are affecting your ability to do your job.

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