I told my job I was pregnant at 5 weeks due to a miscarriage scare, I have history of miscarriage so am very cautious and now I'm 9 weeks I'm still not letting myself get excited or talk about it. I'm just trying to survive until 12 weeks. I only told my manager, and when I went in on my next shift everyone knew and kept coming up and congratulating me. I confronted her very upset as I don't want to talk about it yet, she just shrugged it off and said she's not sure if she let the cat out the bag or not and she's sorry IF it was her. (Who else would it of been?!) I then said I'm incredibly unhappy that people are now going to constantly talk to me about the pregnancy and I don't want to answer questions this early, she then offered to "tell them I have history of miscarriage and to not ask me" which just seemed massively inappropriate.
I was off sick after this with hyperemesis gravidium, I informed them of my week off sick and they continued to call me and hassle me for health updates every day I was off. They also rang me the day of a scan to confirm miscarriage (thankfully I hadn't miscarried) asking why I hadn't rang them to tell them how the scan had gone and that they needed this information. I appreciate they need to know if I'm off sick or not but I was already signed off and it doesn't seem like the first thing I should do after a miscarriage is call my manager. At my return to work they then said I hadn't made adequate contact and that they had to keep taking the time to come chase me, I have a second part time job who I also informed I was off and they didn't contact me once.. because they knew I was sick and that I had to contact them the next Monday with an update (which I did to both jobs)
I'm not assigned any work in this role, I have complained about this multiple times and have just been told that they needed to hire me to prove they needed the job whilst the other woman was on secondment. I have worked there for about 3 months and was supposed to have 2 months left. I spend 4 and a half hours a day just sat a desk doing absolutely nothing, but I'm not allowed to use my phone or bring a book in, I am literally expected to just sit there. Obviously with my history and being in the first 12 weeks having nothing to occupy my mind for so long just makes me panicky and I overthink to no end and I'm finding it all very stressful.
I've been signed off sick constantly due to the hyperemesis, I've been put on new medication to try and control it and I want to try and get back to my second job, which is just for a couple of hours in the mornings and I find a lot more manageable, they also treat me kindly and I don't feel stressed and anxious to go to that role. I have wanted to quit the first job since I started due to having no work, but I need the money and have struggled to find suitable employment and will struggle more now I'm pregnant.
I finally bit the bullet and handed in my notice, and they're demanding a months notice. I've explained that I'm finding full days exhausting, everyone's aware I'm throwing up constantly throughout the day. I'm stressed. Constantly upset. Constantly being asked about the pregnancy. I just can't take it. I can't do another month there, it's making me ill.
I've emailed HR asking to have my notice waived on health grounds, I've also informed them of all of the above. Where do I stand? I'm waiting to hear back but I'm sick with dread. I just feel they're treating me so inappropriately.