Perfect job and I fucking bkrw it

[Ravenclawclassof84]

Just want to rant really. I had an interview the other day. It was for a wonderful job, the perfect sector, great pay, worked out great with family requirements too. I wanted it so much though and so I got nervous during some questions. Basically, i blew it. The feedback afterwards was, i had a lot of relevant experience and I had clearly done a great deal of preparation but my nerves got the better of me and i didn't expand enough on some points. They suggested i apply if similar positions came up but the nature of the work is... They just won't. This was the perfect job and I blew it. I am so angry with myself. I get so fucking nervous before interviews and I hate them.
A aaaarrrrgggghhhhh! How do you crush nerves? Any advice? I fucking hate my stupid self for being an idiot.

Sorry for typos in title. Grrrrr.

I am usually very careful about punctuation and grammar... Not that you would know it by the title!

It can take a bit of practice to do well at interviews, especially if you haven't done one in a while.

My tip is to write down all of the questions they asked you so that you can practice your answers for next time.

To help with nerves, change your mindset about the interview. It's just as much about you choosing them as it is about them choosing you. I have interviewed lots over the years and it's really important for companys to make a good impression as well, because candidates do pull out after you have offered them roles.

Sorry to hear this.
Rescue remedy before interview may be worth a try. I actually had a red bull (never usually drink it) before an interview recently. I think maybe it made by hyper and more talkative than I might usually be.
I got offered the job but declined as it wasn't quite right for me.

Also feeling low today after not even being given an interview for another position. I thought sounded wonderful and I thought I met all of their criteria comfortably... and spent ages on the application. Absolutely gutted !!

Thanks empress
90mammasophie I'm sorry to hear this, it's so frustrating and gutting isn't it? You just wonder what more they could have been looking for. Ah well. I guess we jyst need to keep looking forward, onwards and upwards xxx

Raven.
I started a post a few weeks back. I went for an interview recently for a promotion board in civil service. Civil service interviews are competency based so I knew all my competencies and had what I felt were good examples and I didn't get it. I had put so much work in to it and to get the e-mail that said I regret to tell you that you have been unsuccessful was completely gutting.

I have years of experience and am doing complicated work which is above my grade. I put loads of prep work in and on the day answered all the questions in a 35 minute interview which I came out of thinking that it had gone well. I am still waiting on feedback to see where I went wrong. The worst part was seeing others go through when I didn't. Promotion boards don't come up very often in the Civil Service so I could wait years again before getting an opportunity. It feels like yes you are good enough to do the work but just not good enough to be promoted and recognised for actually doing the work. Gutting. You are not the only one!

Honestly? I've taken a daizepam once before for a second interview. I'm a mess with them - badly shaking and everything. Whether it was psychological or not I aced it and the interviewer did mention I was much calmer second time round.

I have an interview coming up in a few months and am considering asking the doctor for a beta blocker or something. Should really work to get over it without something like that but my theory being it's rarely I need it.

stressmess argh sorry to hear that. I also came out of this interview thinking it had gone well, i hadn't realised how badly my nerves were impacting me. It's so frustrating isn't it? Mind you it must mean there's a much better job for you out there, even if it doesn't feel like it at the moment. Decisions can be made for odd reasons sometimes, and it's rude not to give feedback if asked. Maybe the role was promised to an internal candidate and they advertised it externally to appear fair?
heebie Well done on the success st tge second interview. Do what it takes to help you through the next interview, if it's medication then so be it. I may speak to my doctor about the same thing. I am very anxious generally anyway so it may help in other aspects of my life. Xx

I so feel for you. It's hard when you want something so badly that your nerves take over. I know exactly what you mean.
As to being confused as why one wasnt offered a job. I interviewed for a manager role 2 years ago. 4 candidates. First one was good and thought we could offer the job. The second wasn't, so out right away. Third was amazing and we were so pleased to have such a great candidate. We would have been happy to stop there and mind was almost already made up. Then 4th candidate came and totally blew us away in every way. We'd never had such good candidates for one interview and it was frustrating to have to pick one when we would have been happy the two other candidates jobs, ut there no other jobs at the time.

It's very frustrating but do remember that there is a big element of luck in interview. You could be mediocre but still better than everyone else and get the job. You could be fab but sadly another candidate was ever more fab.

I’m the same and it puts me off applying! I’m Looking currently but the thought of being interviewed scares me. I think it’s because I feel I’m being judged therefore nerves kick in. Worse if it’s a panel rather than 1-2 people.
What I normally do is prepare some ‘stock’ answers w examples as a lot of interviews are competency based now. Do my prep about the company and wear v good deodorant!!