NC for this as details may be outing, and apologies may be a long one as not wishing to dripfeed.
Developing my career over last 10-15 yrs and steadily progressing upwards. Last year I was promoted into a development post (2 yr duration) just reaching half way point. There is a practical element and a theory; theory side going well. Practical not so; I don't find the work hard but my work colleagues don't like me.
I get snippets of why, nobody has told me directly; not even my manager who has alluded that there is a problem but no real help, told me off the record kind of thing so doesn't plan to support or make anything official.
From what I can piece together I have been given a better deal than the previous trainees in regards to pay and working conditions, and I am making good progress because of only these facts and not because I have any genuine ability.
I take this opportunity I had to leave my existing team, so I now work without any colleague support and with a very wushu washy manager.
The development opportunity is something I have desired for some time, when completed in a year I can eventually move on somewhere else (need to stay in same role for 2 years after completion so company better value for their investment).
I have been offered a job in another company doing the same job I did previously, they cannot support my development so I will need to drop out.
So my dilemma do I A) stick in development role for next 3 years where I am career happy but disliked by colleagues, it affecting my well being. or B) move onto new team with a chance of having a nicer working environment but give up on my career progression?
I've never given up anything in my life so feel a complete failure, but don't know if I can cope working in what I feel is a toxic environment for 3 years.