calling mothers with little boys at f/t nursery - how would you feel at the prospect of moving them to a childminder instead?

[serenequeen]

hi everyone

i'm currently seeking advice on a dilemma to do with accepting a p/t pre school nursery place for my ds aged 3.

here is the thread

i'm getting a lot of advice to move him from his f/t nursery to a childminder to enable him to take up the place.

just wondering what other mothers with lively little boys at nursery would think about moving them to a childminder instead?

very interested in comments/views.

thanks in advance

or has anyone done this? how did it work out? would you recommend it?

TIA :)

My ds is only one so completely different situation, but no, I wouldn't move him. He's very happy where he is, I wouldn't upset him unless I had to eg. house move. But I read your other thread, and it is a very tough situation.

thanks, edam, if you have seen the other thread you will see that i agree with you and think it is a bad idea to move him!

anyone else? sorry about the title of this thread - experiences of mothers of girls also much appreciated.

tia

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bumping this in hope of getting as many comments as possible before we leave for hols on monday! thanks

another bump! thanks.

My childminder works a lot with other childminders, so there's a wide circle of kids; they go to playgroup and pre-school; they really are lively and stimulated. HTH, babe?

Does this mean leaving EP, Serenequeen? Such a difficult one as it's so good but your ds will have to leave there at some point and I suppose you have to think of his future schooling now.
If the move to a childminder really didn't work out, could you move him back to nursery? It's so hard, but children are always more resilient than we imagine them to be. Good luck.

dinny, i think you're right about the resilience of children - as i have said on the other thread, i think it's us who are not emotionally ready for this move!

thanks to everyone who has responded here. it seems if we find a good childminder then ds will have the stimulation, contact with other children, love and care that he has now.

i will start looking in the hope we might find someone as good as those mentioned here!

thanks everyone :)

The ds's aren't in f/t nursry but have managed the change between nursery and nanny OK - they're p/t at nusery and I use a nanny to fill in for the gaps if I'm travelling etc. It is just that when you look at a nursery you're not depending on one person. If I'm frank there are some of the staff at the nursery I definitely wouldn't have as a sole nanny/childminder.

Sorry I can't remember the detail of the other thread. If this was just about keeping my options for primary school open (and I was equally happy with the others) then I would probably stay put. But if this primary school is your clear favourite, then make the move - you may find it to be of benefit in the long run as you can keep the c/minder for the start of school etc, so minimising the chnages then.

Well my kids were in nursery and for financial reason mainly I had to move them to a childminder and it was a hell of a lot better than I had anticipated.... partly because my kids childminder does meet up with others, she is far more aware of what my kids needs than the nursery ever was (though I could not really fault the nursery)... as I was commenting to someone recently a childminder is a mother herself and nuserdry hardly ever are... my kids are far more attached to her than they ever were to nursery staff (though I can appreciate that may be seen by some as a double-edge sword) but I take this to be very positive, they are keen to go to her, they make things at her place, she takes them to play group.... and I am one who never thought you could beat nursery.... well my childminder does... any day! (Also she feeds them better too).

From a boy standpoint, Stephen Biddulph (Raising boys) says something like nursery is not ideal for boys as they thrive in smaller circles and nurturing....

thanks again, everyone i really hope i find someone as good as these examples!

pupuce, thanks for that, it's good to know the change can be a very positive one.