Wwyd if your husband did this?

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Husbands been away abroad for work whilst it has been my first couple of weeks back to work (full time) after mat leave. I've juggled a sick baby, starting him into nursery, negotiating our new routine in the morning to get out the door by 7am.
Hubby come back yesterday has the whole day at home whilst I'm at work and baby is in nursery. Then is out tonight getting pissed with friends.

AIBU to be angry?

Currently sitting with baba in arms as still poorly.

YANBU to be angry at him going out tonight (potentially unless this is a very special, one off, unable to be moved, occasion).
Not sure what the problem is with him having a day to recuperate / sort himself out ?

I would have expected him to cancel his night out with friends. He had an unwell child and a parent who could do with his support. There are plenty of chances to get pissed, this is your initiation back into work.

It just would not happen here. I don’t understand these men. Do they not have any compassion or care for their family
Genuinely mystified.

Well, he can play daddy in the morning when you throw dd into his arms and leave the house to have a day to yourself and he’s made you a lovely dinner with a decent bottle of wine.
Then on Sunday, you’re having the the lie in whilst he takes dd to the park.

@backforgood a day to sort himself out WTAF?
I work away from home and I have HOURS whilst away to sort myself out away from children, schoolruns and dinners, lunches, GP appts, soccer yada yada.
When I am home I don't think it unreasonable I am expected to pick up some slack.
Cannot imagine I am alone.

If your baby is poorly then he should have been at home today with his father while you were at work.
His father should also not be going out on the piss leaving you to it after a hard day and another night with a sick infant,

That’s cherrypicking at family life.
I think you have every right to fell disillusioned and whatever else.

Hope your baby is better soon 💐

OP was at work. DC was at Nursery. Presumably employers acknowledge that if you've been away for a fortnight, then you get a 'weekend day' back in lieu. On most MN threads, everyone would be up in arms if the dh had been away for a fortnight and then went in to work on his first day home. I just don't see why that part of what OP has posted is an issue
The going out part is completely different, but there was nothing he could have done in the day, that would have helped the OP.

back he could have looked after how not very well baby?
Is this not what parents do?

*his

I'm presuming, if the Nursery took him, that the baby is well now - otherwise, lets be honest, the Nursery wouldn't have taken him.
I read the OP as being during the time dh has been away - I had to look after a sick baby, not baby is sick now.

The baby is still poorly, according to OP.
How much more is she expected to give? Genuine question.

Thank you all for your replies.
I don't have an issue with him coming back and having a day off to sort himself out/ jet lag. I suppose my point is, he GETS that day. He gets a day to lie on the sofa as he's tired ( understandably so) sans baby. It's not a competition but I could do with a break to!

Baby has been ill... off nursery ( so I took time off work) but back at nursery. But as he's been ill, he's been sleeping terribly so the accumulation of this and going back to work.... I'm shattered!

He doesn't sound like a good husband or father. It would be his first and last warning tbh.

Jet lag or not the baby is his responsibility too.
What would have happened to his day if you were both ill and neither you nor the baby had anyone else to care for them?

Once children come along things like having a day to yourself are a luxury regardless of why they are necessary : especially if things like this happen.

I think sometimes the reality of this hits women a lot quicker than men 😉