Does anyone manage to synchronize diaries with their dh ?

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Grrrrrr !!!

Me and dh both work full time and we both need to travel sometimes - trouble is he sees dd as my responsibility so frequently books himself to be away/late back/off early etc without a word to me !

This is seriously impacting on me as I have to go through a long protacted email convo with him every time I need to book something - and it is driving me nuts !

I have a Dell organiser which synchs with my work Outlook calendar, and he has something else that links with his something else email (Lotus maybe ?) so he says we can't synch with each other as we'd get all of each others appointments !

Has anyone solved this problem easily ??

Anyone ???

We do have an organised mum calendar in the kitchen - but only seems to be me who looks at it or writes on it !

He is an IT bod - so we need something techy to encourage him to do it !

Have you both tried regisitering for a gmail account - great for sync

No - he has one I think - but I don't ! Would that mean reentering all the data into a third calendar then ?

Don't mind doing that - just want to undesrtand !

Sorry not a technical solution, we have decided that one shared calendar seems to be working, and we have agreed that if it aint on the calendar then it aint an appointment, and it is unlikely that you get to go.

WE agreed to have children, and WE need to be there for them, and WE need to work together.

My DH also has Microsoft Outlook, Firewall, and a number of handheld calendars, but it just aint good enough with 4 people's lives to organise.

If I were you I would put my foot down on this one.

You would have to register for an account of your own and then your DH can allow you access to his and vice versa. Dh and I then did a family calender as well in a different colour. You can choose to display however many calenders you want at any time. Kind of hard to explain but really easy to use. Unfortunately DH has a block on Gmail type accounts at work - aaarrgghh!

Hmmm I quite agree Maisy - sadly he is immune to my rantings on the subject - half agrees - half does it for a few weeks and then reverts to his usual !

Will have a look at the gmail thing now - Thanks McDreamy !

My dh thinks all his app'ts trump mine unfortunately !

I would say to him that you can indeed have all each other's appointments, until a better solution can be found. It could be quite handy for you both to know where the other one is. If he doens't like it that way, perhaps he can find out how to do it another way?

Or else the calendar. Wish it was called the Organised Household calendar though.

Your welcome

Isn't it partly that most DHs/DPs don't think of the implications of trips abroad/evening meetings etc on the family whereas working mothers do? This is certainly the case in our household.

Oh definitelt - dh sees me as primary carer for dd despite my f/t job.

Right have set up a gmail calendar now can't work out how to export my Outlook one to it ! What's the betting I can't as it's on gov't network ???

You should be okay - I think you just need to export it from Outlook to a CSV file and then you can import it into your Google calendar.

I am in the middle of a tutorial for one MNer whose husband can only cope with appointments which are in his work calendar (Outlook). From Google you can send proper appointment requests, so if there's anything you want to get into your dh's calendar at work, you can send him a request from the Google calendar. He accepts it and hey presto, no more claims that his appointments rule!

FWIW, and in a Xenia stylee, I think it is outrageous that either partner should just assume that they are free to do whatever they like work-wise on the grounds that the childcare burden falls entirely to the other person. Let us use technology to conquer this assumption!

Oooh - I am so proud of myself - I have exported it successfully !! Presumaably I have to do that regularly or it will be out of date ??

Quite agree it is outrageous - but what can I do ? He takes no notice !

Sending him appoitments sounds good - will try that !

Oh Bum - the git now says that Lotus Notes can't export to Google !! Any sodding excuse ! After I've spent all morning sorting mine out as well !!!

Hallelujah !!! He has done it - but done it wrong - only copied April's appointments to Google - but it works !!