WWYD re accepting this award?

[AwardDilemma]

I had an email at work yesterday advising I had been nominated for a recognition award for a piece of work I did with a colleague. I was really pleased and assumed they would also have been nominated but when I asked them it turns out they haven’t!

They were actually really nice about it and said not to worry and it may be because they are a grade above me so the work may have been considered under their remit but above what I would be expected to do. However, I feel they did more of the work (maybe 60/40) and should also have been recognised. If its relevant, my colleague works full-time I am part-time.

The award is a sum of money and it would come in really useful as we've struggled a bit recently but I also feel guilty about my colleague. Should I say anything to my manager? (It’s my manager who made the nomination and she is aware it was a joint project) And if so, what?!

I think you are really nice to worry about this. But if you were a man you wouldn't. Just accept your colleague's explanation and the money and kudos for a job well done.

Accept the award. If you have opportunity to credit them, then tell people it was a joint project. Buy them a nice bottle of wine as a thank you

But if you were a man you wouldn't

What on earth are you talking about??
Totally irrelevant derailing and not a point bought up in the OPs post at all.

Twonk.

Just enjoy the award and the money! Take the colleague for lunch maybe?

I'd speak with the colleague. They might just be very happy for you. Maybe they received a similar award themselves before they got promoted.

I'd trade carefully though if they are poised off about it and in that case would tell the big boss of your discomfort, obviously without telling them that your colleague is angry.

Don't call me a twonk, you rude person. It was a perfectly valid point. Women need to start accepting credit at work in the way men routinely do. I didn't suggest men shouldn't accept credit did I. Dipstick.

OP could be a man- her colleague could be a woman, totally irrelevant point.

You're on the wrong topic.

Op are you a man? The colleague's sex is irrelevant.

But of course it's relevant to ask yourself if you're behaving in a particular way because you've been conditioned it's nice to do so as a woman. If you deflect credit from yourself (as women are conditioned to do) people will happily believe it and that is likely to impede your own progress.

You may disagree with me - that is your right - but you don't have to be aggressive about it and you don't have the right to tell me what and where I may post.

I am a woman and I am pleased to get credit for my work.

Maybe guilt was the wrong word but it felt unfair my colleague didn't also get recognised and I know she would have felt the same it if was reversed

As my colleague pointed out though there is nothing for me to feel bad about as it's the manager who has made the decision. So I will enjoy the money but as others suggested treat her to lunch/bottle of wine.

Not wanting to derail but I agree that the point about a man is relevant. It is well known that most (note use of word most - not all) woman will only go for a job if they meet all the essential criteria, most men will go for one where they meet most but not all.

I think most men wouldn't consider this. I also think it is nice to consider the others persons feeling but it shouldn't stop you accepting it.