Public sector, same Admin job eight years, colleague in the same job eleven years but on and off performance management. Colleague also has a long term health condition which makes her very anxious. For example,she will e mail something to me at my request, then phone me several times to make sure I have received it and, if I don't pick up, for example if I am in a meeting, she will phone other colleagues. As you would imagine, this can be wearing, but because I understand that she is ill, I put up with it.
Last week, I asked her if a task had been completed. She said another colleague had done it. I asked him and he said she had done it. We went backwards and forwards like this for half an hour. In the end she attempted to show me where the document I wanted was located on our shared drive while knowing perfectly well that it wasn't there. She eventually admitted this.
Unfortunately, one of my triggers is gaslighting, so this upset me a lot. Think crying that day in the office ' at home that night and in the office the next day. My line manager was on holiday so I requested a meeting with her manager and explained that this relationship has now broken down. She ensured that we were kept apart on the next working day, but this won't work long term, or even short term.
I don't know where we go from here. I am unwilling to resign because of something someone else has done.
I am being referred to Occupational Health re a recent physical diagnosis I have received. Might they help with this, or is it a matter for our HR, who are not the greatest, or perhaps my union?
Thanks