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Fed up of anti-mothers colleagues

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pinkladyhannah · 01/10/2018 15:45

I work at a small business, and I'm getting increasingly fed up with the attitude of the other senior members of staff. Ever since I announced my pregnancy, I have been regularly accused of having 'baby brain', I am regularly embarrassed in front of visiting sales reps when they are told that I've 'recently' had a baby, or that I 'only' work part-time as some sort of excuse (for what, I don't know). Before my baby, I worked full time, now I work 3 days a week. In this small business, I am the only person doing my role, and since going part-time I now basically work super hard doing my old role in half the time. I'm just feeling really down about it this afternoon after being called by my boss asking why I hadn't done something (I'm certain that I had, but obviously didn't save it properly). Again, told I'm 'cracking up' and to enjoy the rest of my 'day-off'. It was said in some sort of jest, except that I'm sat here now crying in frustration.
I have a long term plan of how to get out of my current role, but this will take a couple of years and involve another baby in the meantime!
The sad thing is that it's a really nice place to work in, it's just incredibly patriarchal, and toxic to working mothers (I'm the only one, they have always said that they won't hire women with babies....Angry)
What can I do to make them realise that what they're doing is crap? I've worked there almost a decade, and have a good general relationship with everyone otherwise.

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user1499173618 · 01/10/2018 15:47

If people make sexist comments, pull them up on the spot.

LeftRightCentre · 01/10/2018 15:51

I have a long term plan of how to get out of my current role, but this will take a couple of years and involve another baby in the meantime!
The sad thing is that it's a really nice place to work in, it's just incredibly patriarchal, and toxic to working mothers (I'm the only one, they have always said that they won't hire women with babies....angry)
What can I do to make them realise that what they're doing is crap? I've worked there almost a decade, and have a good general relationship with everyone otherwise.

So you want to use them to fund another mat leave for you, they're good enough for that, but need to be taught a lesson by you that they're crap? Just move on. They don't think they're crap, they never will. TBH I can see why a lot of small businesses don't hire women with babies, they probably fear having to fund mat leave after mat leave and then make the role part-time.

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