Advice on the work dread

[nm1989]

I hate my new job - I've given it 3 months but I'm still not settling into the work. I'm under qualified for the role but have other valuable skills and my employers were aware that this was the case and told me I would be provided with mentoring and training. This hasn't happened and I'm feeling increasingly like I'm not delivering as I can't get my head around the system.

I find myself for the first time in my career now seriously dreading going in. It's like a black cloud hanging over me and my mental health is suffering. I'll soon have to give 3 months notice so I'm feeling quite helpless and this is causing me to further underperform in the role.

I don't really know what I'm looking for, just a handhold maybe and some advice on how to get through the days.

Thanks x

I think pragmatically it largely depends on your employer.

I think you have three options:

1. tackle it in role with your manager. Raise your concerns etc and see how it goes

2. find ways to make the role better for you: specify and research what's needed, I.e. don't just present the problem, propose a solution too.

3. swallow it and look elsewhere- chalk it up to experience and get your CV out. I don't think three months notice would be enforceable after only three months if you have a probationary period

Don't make any decisions yet. They say it can take up to 6 months to really feel in command in a job.

If the company has complex systems and processes, make a list of the ones you need to know in your role and work with your manager to undergo training. Tick them off one by one, so you feel you're achieving.

Have you thought of approaching someone you think you will gel with and asking them if they would be prepared to mentor you. Set up regular meetings, create your own ask-list each time where you need support. Write notes, take actions from each meeting so your mentor knows they are adding value and wants to keep meeting you.

Take back control and steer your own path, don't wait for it to happen as it probably won't, whichever company you work in!