Having spent two years - more - prepping DD for a move out of London 6th form am now conflicted as I love my (rel new) job and am dreading the move back to my hometown (been creeping up on me for some months), and can't find the right home there...(seems very over priced and not really worth it)...DD is not happy at all and despite her having a large group of great friends here - is still desperately keen to move there for a fresh start etc...DD thinks am hugely selfish to now start thinking this way and at this stage....DD is not wrong but events have emerged as they have and had no control over this last change of heart and the job I am in becoming a long term possibility...
Is she right and should I honour her wishes and also the plans we have been working towards for so long....
Or do I take the sign that a great job with people I love is worth its weight in gold and that living in a smaller space ( we are moving wherever we go - just whether to stay in increasingingly dodgy London in a larger space than we have but nott thaaaat big a 2 bed flat as opposed to a house ) in London and with job I love is better than moving out to seaside, larger space (house) and fresh start albeit an uncertain one for me..
I know the size of a home doesn't equate to happiness entirely though equally a too small a space (as currently we are in) is tough...Teens are generally looking out for themselves and that is how they're made so I know the moodiness will pass but feel terribly guilty about the whole thing and very very confused. Also DD's point is valid - and genuine - and I am messing her around though she has chances in both places to be at great 6th forms and also in one to have old friends and new, and in the second to make new friends and have her old friends too albeit at some distance...
I don't want to blow the chance of a fresh start and yet I don't want to move to a nice house (if we find one that is) and rush it and also not have a great happy-inducing job....(one been offered seem very brutal by comparison to where I am..). Yet I feel like I have to move due to my promises for so long.....
Sorry this thread is not strictly employment though that feels key at this stage....It's bigger picture than that but didn't know how to convey this properly...thank you in advance...