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can't do it...

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user1496025079 · 19/07/2018 21:33

my manager at work probably hates me, and with good reason...

i've been in a job for a little while, but i'm grown enough to say i suck at it. i know what to do, but then i can be a bit of a mental ass. i don't think i have dyslexia, but then i just get in a mind fog and forget shit a lot, and it's hurting the operation.

my manager said she would write me up the next time i do bad shit, and i guess it's her right and it makes sense. but then i don't do it on purpose. to be honest, my mental farts have happend in past jobs, but then in my most immediate past job, i did pretty well, and without bragging was the most trusted member of my team. i was able to overcome the brain fucks, and whilst they happened, i did pretty well out of it.

but in this job, i dunno.... i know my manager thinks i'm being an arse, but i'm not.

i'm thinking of leaving to be honest, but then i dunno, i'm just sounding out here really. I want to speak with her and say i'm not messing around, but it's a problem i have in focusing. i think what happens is that due to the nature of the job, there's a lot on the go. i've had that in jobs before, but here i'm doing something, and something else pops up, and then i have to finish the thing i started and it gets muddled.

I guess also, i'vve never been this shit at a job before, and my pride is hurt. that looks arrogant, and it is maybe. but then i don't care, i think doing a good job should bring pride.

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grumpy4squash · 19/07/2018 22:55

What is the job and can you do it?

Singlenotsingle · 19/07/2018 22:57

You're obviously new to the job. Will you improve after you've been there a while?

Gardenpicnic · 19/07/2018 23:39

What sort of stuff are you doing that hurts the operation? It doesn't really matter if you mean to - if it's having an effect on the business she will have a duty to write it up.

EBearhug · 20/07/2018 00:24

I would speak to her to see if there are any actions you can take to mitigate the errors.

What was different in your immediate past job that meant you did well? Why did you leave?

Babymamamama · 20/07/2018 00:27

Is there any chance you could have adhd? Maybe bring up your symptoms with your GP? Seems a shame to lose your job when you clearly want to do your best.

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user1496025079 · 20/07/2018 05:40

i left because the department scaled down.

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user1496025079 · 20/07/2018 05:41

@gardenpicnic i tend to misplace orders and forget tasks.

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user1496025079 · 20/07/2018 05:41

@grumpy4squash its sending out orders to clients.

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user1496025079 · 20/07/2018 05:43

@EBearhg i honestly dont know. i think.it ws more office based or it was more flexible.

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user1496025079 · 20/07/2018 05:44

@Babymamamama maybe. i guess its somethi g worth exploring.

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DrAdmin · 20/07/2018 05:58

Are you in the uk op? If so, dyslexia is recognised as a disability and so your manager should be making reasonable adjustments for that to help you do your job

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user1496025079 · 20/07/2018 06:13

yes i am in the uk. @DrAdmin

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DrAdmin · 20/07/2018 06:28

If you have a diagnosis I would tell your employer.

If you don’t, approach them and explain to them that you’re aware you’ve missed some stuff and that you would like to work together to sort it out.

Are there clear policies, procedures and process maps for you to follow? Do you have reminders in ur outlook etc? If not take the opportunity to tell your manager that this sort of thing would really help and perhaps you could draw them up together. They are useful for business continuity if you’re ever off unexpectedly or you have to do a hand over.

Have you got an annual performance review and policy?

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user1496025079 · 21/07/2018 06:28

There is an annual review, but then I spoke to her about this, and she said that I just need to sharpen up.

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AutoFilled · 21/07/2018 07:08

I am a team lead and I don’t think she hates you as a person. But under performing team member is a real problem. Misplacing orders and forget to do tasks are really serious. Complaints about team mistakes go to your manager and she is responsible for not making sure you perform. It doesn’t matter it’s not a deliberate mistake.

Does the company have a HR handbook for performance based dismissal? It will usually say something about improvement plans. If she is just telling you to sharpen up she’s either not trying to get rid of you, or not following procedures. She and you should be drawing up plans on how to improve. FWIW it’s very difficult in a lot of work places to get rid of staff who’s past probation. I had done weekly meetings, SMART goals etc. In the end, my line manager simply moved the underperforming staff to another team. (He was moved into my team only a year before).

greendale17 · 29/07/2018 12:55

Maybe find a job where if you do mess up it won’t have such far reaching consequences?

daisychain01 · 29/07/2018 14:55

Mind fog, forgetting things, misplacing orders - these are difficult for any manager to ignore, OP. But they also point to either a lack of commitment, because you don't enjoy the job, or some serious health issues eg memory loss, depression or other challenge that only you know about.

I'm sorry to say it like this, but your posting manner does sound to some extent blasé - you are recognising all these issues but then saying agh I dunno, I just get a brain fog and stuff happens... instead of saying what you've tried to do to improve. As I'm sure you know, losing orders ultimately means people stop giving your company business, so none of you will get paid.

What steps are you taking from day to day to address any of the things you've mentioned? Can you evidence the actions to your manager in your performance review.

She wont carry on indefinitely pointing out things that you're not doing right. That could have long term impact if she then decided to put you on performance review as it will go on your record and affect a future reference if you want to change jobs.

If you do have health concerns tell her so she keeps that in mind in your evaluation.

daisychain01 · 29/07/2018 15:17

And I'm saying this to help, not to criticise you esp if you're not well x

Thedutchwife · 29/07/2018 15:30

I agree with daisy, your post, to me, comes across as you’ve accepted this how things are. When in reality you may very well end up losing your job, struggling for money ect.. there seems to be no urgency or focus.

If one of our employees was coming across like this they would have to be let go as we would lose money and endanger losing our buisness.

I wouldn’t want to have to baby sit an employee that’s getting paid for a job she should be able to do as it takes my time of doing something important.

If you know your prone to brain for or moments of loss of concentration go for a job that’s not going to put you or anyone else in the shit.

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