I had written a detailed reply but my phone died and I lost it all. Thanks for replying Lucy just wanted to know if I could ask what her accusations about me were. Even though I didn't do anything. She exclaimed last week that 'I'm going to our manager about you 2. ' I asked her what for, but didn't get an answer.
Basically she lies. Tells me one thing my colleague another . She has misrepresented what has been said between colleages and in meetings to suit her own agenda. She plays divide and conquer games between colleagues. She doesn't want them to get on so that they don't side against her so she reports things about the other even though they are lies. This has been witnessed by other colleagues who corroborate the lies that she has told.
E.g. I worked late one evening over an hour. The agreement was that if this happened we had to tell our manager as soon as possible so that we didn't just do it Willy nilly to get time back. She was our manager at the time and she was off duty when I had to stay after hours for one hour to sort this patient out, so I told her at the next available opportunity a few days later. I explained the circumstances who the patient was etc. and it was all easily proven. I said I'd stayed over an hour after my official time the previous Thursday. So the following Tuesday first thing I told her . (I was off the Friday and monday) This was the agreed protocol. As i don't trust her at all. I sent her an email with the same info on it. Another colleague came in latrr that morning when I was busy elsewhere. I didn't see my colleague until we all went to a meeting that afternoon. My colleague asked me in the meeting what time owing I wanted . I thought this was odd as she wasn't my manager and it sort of came out of nowhere. I told her what had happened the previous week with my patient and it was only an hour and that I hadn't even thought about when I would take it back but id look at it later to see when i could fit in.
My colleague came to me after the meeting and said that she had been informed that I had come back to work that morning and demanded I get this hour back and in an aggressive tone. Fortunately my colleague knee what this person is like and knew something was up. I then was able to show her the email I had sent and just what I had said and how I had said it.
One day she would complain you were in the office too much and, without exaggeration, the next day say you were leaving all the work to her by not being in the office enough.
She told us once that we would have to work 1 weekend in 2 and no matter how many weekends we worked it would be a basic salary. We knew this was rubbish and proved it to her but she then berated us for having the audacity to go to our rcn rep. This was typical behaviour , inciting anxiety and irritation in her staff.
She bullied myself and colleagues. Sighing rolling eyes or just ignoring you when she was spoken to. I no longer speak to herunless there is someone else in the room. I will if I have to about work but generally wait until someone else is there. I never never never mention anything to do with my personal life in her presence . I was advised by my run rep that I can do this and honestly it has been a bit if a lifesaver as her mind games and manipulations and lies about things she claimed I had said were affecting my mental health.
Hen a colleagues diary was lost unfortunately it was reported found to her . But she didn't tell the owner if the diary. She didn't like the owner of the diary and didn't want to ease her worry, so said nothing. But she was found out. She again lied her way out of this. She claimed someone rang her about a purse, not a diary, she made a name up of a nurse who had phoned her ....this nurse didn't exist. But the nurse who did tell hwr wrote a rwport how she had met her in the lift and told her where it was. We all had to go to a meeting about it . It was fascinating just watching her talk and talk and talk and talk ,seemingly bamboozling our manager into not doing anything!!! As the diary was found in a safe trust building it didn't become a major incident.
We know she cooks the books to make it look like she works the hardest but in fact a lot of her work is phonecalls not home visits. If we make this claim and prove it she will say this is part of us harassing her.
We have a new member of staff, a guy who she mentors, she doesn't tell our manager what he is doing, e.g. he would go to college alternate Wednesdays but he should be at work in the intervening week. But she told him to just stay at home and study not passing this info on . It all came out in the woodwork when another person reported back to the team that he wasn't in college but at home. They then came back and said he was actually going on placements. When he was asked for reports of where his placements, she claimed he was being bullied. This is her go to theme in all instances. He is has to share the blame in this, but this is definitely her manipulating him and the situation. She will literally do anything to cause friction within the team.
It seems we can't win. If we actively try to disprove her ...we are bullying her.
I have gotten to the point that everything she says now I think...this is what you are saying now...what is the agenda for you here. I'm usually right in my deductions.
The list is long and varied of her activities. I could honestly write a book on the games she has played between staff.
I know of 8 people in our team who have gone to our various managers over the years complaining about her bullying behaviour. She has had stand up rows with at least 4 of these.
I want to challenge her lies but worry that she will say I am bullying and harassing her. Management won't do it and she gets away with it all. We end up feeling like fools as we cant apparently say or do anything. We have reported all of these these lies and more (often corroborated by colleagues in and out of the team) her manipulation of data , her divide and conquer games, telling colleagues she is now a band 6 and to redirect everything to my colleague...she is still a band 7.
This is literally only the surface of what it is like on a daily basis in our office.