To prefer being stuck in comfort zone?

[WingsOnMyBoots]

I have finally realised, quite late in life..ah hem! that even thought I have spend a large portion of my life trying to break out of my comfort zone , live large, have big plans, spread myself wide and thinly and keep myself as busy a possible, feeling guilty for saying no and not being more adventurous that I really like my life to be small, contained, regular, predictable and manageable. I find it gives me a greater sense of peace and security to keep my life as small as possible. I find joy in really small things, I like regular routine rather than surprise, I only bit off what I can chew.
I have spent my life reading books that tell me this is not the way to achieve my best potential and live my best life but this is how I am genuinely most happy. I suppose it's about nothing to prove.

Does anyone else identify with this? What are your thoughts?

Sorry for all the errors I am typing fast!

I think that choice is the important thing here

If one is NOT 'living large' through fear, then perhaps dealing with the fear is an important thing to do

But if one is NOT 'living large' because it's truly what makes you happy, then good for you

I can't imagine anything worse than 6 months exploring some mosquito riddled jungle in the name of living large (as an example)

Ha!Ha! In the jungle! No thanks!!

Me too @WingsOnMyBoots but a friend of mine is doing just that and thinks I'm dull because I wouldn't do it!

I'll stick with dull 😆

I think it's because it gives me a greater sense of control. I know that in reality was have very little control as something can come along at any minute and turn your world upside down. This has happened to me many times from when I was really young which I think is exactly why I am happier being small as it gives me a feeling of control even thought I know it is an illusion.

Completely agree. I am not pushing to get to the next stage as it'd involve shifting jobs every 6 months, endless evenings of revision, seemingly hundreds of assessments and cost thousands of pounds. Turns out, I like my nice predictable life in a great workplace. Yip I'll never earn the big bucks but I'm ok with that.

I think it's really important that people recognise where they are comfortable at and not chase a 'dream' that turns out to just be what they think they should want.

Yes Moreisnnogedag that is exactly it. For so long I was affect by what I thought I should want, but it only ever increases anxiety for me. I have learnt that sometimes you cannot heal fully from the tragedies in your life no matter how hard you try. They do shape you and they do dictate.
I would never have thought years ago, say in my late 20's, that I would feel this way but I feel that contentment for me is more important than adventure.

I understand. No judgement here.

Can I recommend another self help book? It's called how to do everything and be happy by Peter Jones. He doesn't once mention comfort zones. It's all about identifying your own markers of happiness, not what you think will make you happy.