I'm the new girl and feeling crap

[singingpinkmonkey]

Just wanted to see if anyone else has felt this way and how you cheered yourself up and snapped out of it.

I recently started a new job in HR. I have wanted to work in HR for years so I was thrilled when I got this chance. I worked for my previously employer for 5 years and without blowing my own trumpet, I was very good at my job and felt well respected and liked.

I just feel a bit rubbish as although I haven't made any mistakes or done anything wrong, I feel a bit out of my depth. I had a catch up meeting last week and it was ok but my new boss is quite hard to read and basically suggested that I wasn't the first choice for the role but she took a chance on me because I seemed keen and came across well in the interview.

I know I'm just being oversensitive but can't help but feel deflated. I am starting to wonder if I made a mistake and that I won't ever meet her expectations. I've always prided myself on working very hard and making sure I do my absolute best. I'm 33 and already hate feeling like starting again but feel a bit silly being the new girl again.

Can you get yourself a bunch of flowers or something on the way home? This is an issue that will not exist a few weeks from now, at the risk of stating the obvious Sounds like your boss, whilst not necessarily tactful, is fairly honest, which isn't necessarily a bad thing, and better than being two-faced, which IME takes longer to read and get to grips with.

I think the first three months in any job is hard more so if you are also going into a new area. Be kind to yourself you are taking on a new role and new area. Keep being enthusiastic and doing the job to the best of your ability if you feel things are still not quite right perhaps ask your manager for 121's with some support/guidance and training to show you are doing your best. As a manager my motto to all was there is no such thing as a stupid question I would much rather them ask than sit and struggle. Good luck OP

I feel exactly the same. New work area, feeling a bit slow and that my boss took a chance on me. Hang in there and be patient with yourself, OP. It does feel awful at first but I'm sure if you give yourself time you'll get there.

It's very early days OP and you are still settling in and getting the feel of the job,the people etc,give it more time.
You've moved from a job that you knew you could do well and felt comfortable in that environment.
This is a fresh challenge and try to enjoy it as such.You have achieved your goal in getting into HR,you just need to have more faith in your abilities.
Show your boss you were absolutely the best choice.

my new boss is quite hard to read and basically suggested that I wasn't the first choice for the role but she took a chance on me because I seemed keen and came across well in the interview

Not sure that’s a great thing-or terribly helpful- to tell someone this early on, to be honest!

Thanks for your kind replies.
I don't know what's wrong with me but I've completely lost my confidence.
My boss snapped at me this week and I felt so wounded. That's not me at all.
Normally if someone snapped at me, I would take it on the chin and get on with life.
I can't work out whether I'm just not suited to HR or whether this is just the wrong company/manager for me.

I feel very disappointed in myself that I'm being so negative but I can't seem drag myself out of this headspace.

Sorry to waffle but I find it cathartic to write this all down!