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Bullying after returning to work

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ShimaChin · 10/04/2018 00:09

Hi, I hope someone can provide some guidance.

It started off slowly when I returned to work after 9 months maternity leave in Dec. Comments made by my manager, "do you still have baby brain" "you don't know what you're talking about, things have changed whilst you were off having a baby" or most disturbing is the comment she has made at least 6 times in the presence of my mainly male colleagues, "you're not allowed to have sex anymore, you're not going on maternity leave again". Regardless, I turned the other cheek and carried on with my job.

She then called me in for a 1:1 meeting when she asked me a serious of trivial questions like, "do you find it hard to get up in the morning?" And then told me that she feels that I'm suffering from post natal depression and I should go to the GP and take a list of drugs she named! After diagnosing me and prescribing the medication I should be on, she then went on to ask me "is it because of you religion or culture that you haven't sought help for your depression?"

She told me that my work has been suffering since I'd been back but failed to give me any examples. She then went on to say that my peers have all given her the same feedback (I have since spoken to then and they were horrified to hear this). She finished the meeting by giving me 6 weeks to improve or else she will need to take further action (put me on a PIP).

Is she allowed to speak to me in this way? I have left meetings in tears because she constantly and aggressively dismisses my contributions, shouts and belittles me but yet all the work comes my way. I've never missed a meeting (we've had 23 team meeting since I started!), never missed a deadline (even when she emailed me on a Saturday for urgent work that need to be done by Monday).

Any advice is welcomed. Thank you

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howrudeforme · 10/04/2018 00:15

Seems like this has been going pre pregnancy?

The most worrying comment is about your religion and culture in relation to her diagnosis of post partum depression. Do you have professional HR department? If not, call ACAS.

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