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iwanttobeatree1234 · 25/03/2018 18:57

I've changed my name on here just incase anyone works out who I am.

Basically one of my best friends has been extremely ill since the beginning of the year. She had to have quite a bit of time off work (which she beats herself up about).

She returned to work in feb even though she was still unwell. The week before last she started to really deteriorate and ended up in hospital seriously ill (hospital told her if she had left it a day longer she would have died).

She was in hospital for 3 or 4 days on drips and was sent home at the beginning of last week with an oral course of antibiotics. Her GP tried to sign her off work for 2 weeks so that she could properly recover but my friend would only accept a 1 week certificate because she is so worried about having more time off and has already used all her paid sickness leave for this year.

She is due to return to work this week but she is still really poorly and I am not the only person who thinks she needs to be off for longer.

She is too worried to take anymore time off incase they dismiss her and also because she won't be able to pay her bills if she doesn't go back to work. She is quite new to the job so having lots of time off doesn't look great but she is genuinely really poorly.

I know that she will go into work tomorrow and try to look "better" so that she doesn't annoy her colleagues but she really isn't well enough.

I can't get her to even consider taking another week off. I am so worried she will end up in hospital again.
How can I make her see that she needs to recover fully before returning to work? (She works in a school).

P.S I am probably worrying more than the average person as I had a friend who died last year and I am scared that I am about to lose another friend because she is putting her job before her health.
Any advice please?

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AnchorDownDeepBreath · 25/03/2018 19:20

I don't know if it's the same everywhere; but the absence scoring where I work (and the last place I worked, too) would see lots of smaller absences as worse than one big one. Every time she returned and then got signed off again; it'd be a new absence and that'd look worse than just taking enough time off to go back properly ready.

I have no idea if that will help to convince her or not.

iwanttobeatree1234 · 25/03/2018 19:33

Ah ok that's really interesting to know, I will put that too her and see what she says. Thank you

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retirednow · 25/03/2018 20:53

If she's still unwell and works in a school that is extremely irresponsible to go to work, she risks her own health plus if she is sick enough to be on antibiotics she could pass it on, it's only a few days till the school holidays start so she should stay at home, recover and go back when she is ready. Can she claim SSP or make up the time in the future. I hope she feels better soon.

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