Take it on the chin?

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I'm a new manager and my line manager is constantly on my case, the good things that I make happen aren't noticed only things that need to improve or are a work in progress. It's everyday day, constantly at work and at home. I'm just trying to take it on the chin my partner says I need to escalate it as it's tantamount to bullying.

Don’t take it on the chin, you shouldn’t be made to feel like that whether you’re a new manager or have been a manager for years.

Can you arrange meetings with your line manager to give them updates on your workload? This is what I do on a weekly basis with my manager, and it has meant that they stop badgering me at random times about random things!

That's not good enough for them, they want updates through out the day and explanations constantly. I have tried to explain that constructive criticism would work much better, received an apology and then the next day it returned to normal.

A few questions - did your line manager come with your new role or have you worked for them before? Does your line manager have other reports? If so, what are they like with them? And do you have colleagues in a similar position to you, and how do they update their managers?

On the face of it, I would tend to agree with your partner - either they trust you to do this new role or they don't.

I don't know if it helps, but the only time I had to deal with this, the line manager wasn't very good. They couldn't answer questions from their colleagues/managers at high level meetings, and blamed me for not telling them - when I most certainly had done and they had not remembered or understood.

I worked with them previously and got along brilliant, since taking the new role they have totally changed towards me, even though it was their decision to put me in this role.
We all report in the same way.
They appear to be quite harsh on everyone but from what I can make out I receive a lot more harsh criticism than most of the others, a lot of the time it encroaches on my home life and they deem this acceptable due to my role. I don't believe I should be contacted on a rest day purely to be chastised but I love my job so have been keeping it a bit low key but it's affecting my mental well being now.

I don't believe I should be contacted on a rest day purely to be chastised but I love my job so have been keeping it a bit low key but it's affecting my mental well being now. I'm not surprised. What would happen if you didn't check your messages on your rest day - are you obliged as part of your contract?

You have my sympathy as I have seen this happen to others, it is corrosive to your spirit. If this is their management style with everyone then I would be tempted to have a "this is what I will do, this is what I won't do" conversation with them regarding your days off, as this seems to be having the most impact on you.

Basically they call until I answer. I am expected to be contactable 24 hours a day but it's meant to be for emergencies.......

I feel I'm in a venerable position as I am within a probationary period in my role and could be left without a job at the end of it.